Feeling sad- silly really

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Just caught myself looking for stats on failed vasectomies.
I'm pregnant with number 4 and DH had the snip about a month ago.
We agreed he should. Pregnancies are getting harder and we really can't afford anymore. Plus hes doesnt really want anymore anyway.
But I feel sad. I havent had this one yet it feels odd knowing its the last. I've always said I would love six if we could afford it but you know the odds on winning the lottery.
So theres not much point to this thread just had to let it out.
Please tell me 4s a good number

I'm one of four and its great!!

thankyou
feeling more resigned to it now rather than sad.
I'm sure when this one arrives I'll be thinking I was mad and then when theyre 9 months I'll be thinking it all again

FWIW I don't know if that feeling goes away how ever many you have. I have 5, and would probably have another 5 if practicalities allowed!

Four is great, I was one of four, and would love four myself. have three at the moment, and am just waiting for finaces etc to be good enough to try for number four.

I think I agree with cazboldy, as I have a feeling that if I do ever get to have number four, I would still really like more !

But I am trying to think of this way ; I am more than likely sticking with the three, unless we win the lottery, and can move to a bigger house, but should that, or anything else change, then I would be extrmemly happy and satisfied with having a fourth, and that I would have to accept, would be it !

hard though x

My DH is one of four and we would love a fourth but seeing how we get on with our three. YOungest is nine months so giving it a bit of time although I'm no spring chicken. Lovely dynamic between them at the moment so not sure yet.

4 I think will be my limit, financially, emotionally, everything.
For me I physically would not have the energy to cope with any more without leaving somebody out or negleting myself or my marriage.

Same here, am TTC #4 at the minute and I think that will be it. I don't think I would want to put my body through more pregnancies or the energy to cope with 5.

Unless I end up with twins this time
EEK

ive got 5, but honestly??? i feel 'done'. But its only after a couple of years that i feel that way.

DS5 is 2.8 and i knew really when he was about 6mths that he was the last - i was sad, embarrassingly sad, but as my heart got used to what my head was saying it got easier. It was a bit of a wrench getting rid of the baby things (DS5 was about 18mths), but as I let them go, my need for more children subsided a little.

Good luck. I understand the sadness you feel, but please dont let it spoil your time with your little bundle when it arrives - cherrish it all the more!!!

{{{HUGS}}} for your journey. XXX

incidentally, was running this thread past DH, he said (witha smirk) "yup, we've got 5, and 4 is definately the perfect number!"

I always said i wanted 7, but like i said, we've got 5 and i feel done now. Odd numbers i dont like too much, so 4... well thats perfect!

Someone advice me, I have 4 kids, I can't really afford anymore but said that with them all and we manage., didn't want anymore after 3 then had my lovely daughter as a nice surprise and now i have her, she's 10 months i want more, I really want more, my oldest is 17 and leaving in the summer so technically I would be back to 4. please advice

i know of 2 people and a 3rd possibly with failed snips - 4 if you count ian beale in eastenders

I was desperatly broody after 2, and caught for third not much later. I'm not broody anymore, much. I do get pangs every now and again, but there is no way i could afford 4. So you are lucky if you do get by! That said I hated dh getting snip, but now I do feel relief that not worrying.

I have 2. I always wanted 4, but I don't think I could face another pregnancy (you all deserve medlas). However, my dh has just booked his vasectomy and I feel really sad about it!

I felt really sad for a while, it's like something huge has happened - like a chapter of a book had closed. But I feel okay now about it and don't give it a thought. It's nice not to have an 'oh no' moment when my period is late etc!

I have ds and dd and due no3 in april.

No3 was a really hard decicion as although I love being preg. and seem to sail through that part (fingers crossed now!) I seem to get the birth a bit wrong and specialise in post birth bleeding by the bucketload

Some friends and family think we are mad to be doing this again but we have both always always wanted a large family. And the doctors didn't say don't do it so we're trying for a texbook birth this time.

Have already talked about no4 and would both love to but DP has said his nerves couldn't take it again if this time doesn't go smoothly.

ALready trying to convince myself that 3 would be enough and wont really want anymore. Stupid and mad to be thinking that even before no3 here

my friend went to see a physicic last night and she came to me this morning and said that she was told that some one close to her will find out they will be pregnant and there face will hit the floor ..well i have 4 and dh has had snip and i said dont look at me but it was just a really wiered feeling ... prob me just being silly what r the stats for failed vasectomy .....lol

I couldnt find any so if anyone has any?

I have 6 and want 7. Dp says we've not enough dosh
Dp also says I would always wants just 'one more', he's probably right!