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du u think its sad to dress your children in the same outfits

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missymoo2411 · 02/01/2009 10:45

i was going to my mums on boxing day when a mother who has 9 kids had all the boys the same and the girls the eldest boy is 14 yrs youngest3 girl is 9 youngest 1 yrs she was visiting her dad i just thought poor kids they r individuals i mean i have 4 kids and never put them in the same possibly simlar but make a ponit not to do it as it was done to me as a kid

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4andnotout · 02/01/2009 10:52

I do this all the time, my dd3 and dd4 are 15 months and 10 weeks old and if i can get matching outfits i do! They look cute! Infact they are wearing matching outfits today DD1(7) & dd2(3) chose matching trainers the other day as they wanted to be alike. I dont think it surpresses their individuality as they dont alway dress alike.

scienceteacher · 02/01/2009 10:58

When mine were younger, I had several matching outfits for them. My girls loved having the same dresses as one another.

snorris · 02/01/2009 10:59

I personally wouldn't especially as I have twins and they move so fast I have to be sure I'm not seeing the same one twice!! (although they've chosen the same outfit today ). Also dd1 is 8 years older than the twins so it is very difficult to find outfits that range from newborn through to teenager .
I do know someone who is one of 4 girls and their mother dressed them all the same. Apparently this was so that if one of them ever wandered off she could point to the others and say exactly what they were wearing! .

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missymoo2411 · 02/01/2009 11:03

i just thought a 14 yr old and a 3 year in the same imean outfits trainers coats ,hats, gloves every thing,the 6 boys all the same its cute when ther little ive done outfits similar but differnt colours when they were little as my ds1,2,3,r close in age

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piscesmoon · 02/01/2009 11:05

The problem is that when you pass on the clothes (which I always did)the youngest gets the same outfit to wear for what seems like ever!

juuule · 02/01/2009 13:32

I've done it.
Usually stops once the kids get old enough to choose their own.

But when they are younger I had difficulty seeing something I liked and getting it for one and then having to get something I thought was less nice for one of the others.

I also think they look nice and with the girls would get something almost the same with a small difference.

Also stopped the arguing if they thought a brother/sister had something nicer than them if I just got them the same.

And yes we did find that the younger children weren't so keen to inherit hand-me-downs if they'd had the same for the last 12m. Much more exciting to get something different even if it wasn't new.

As I said once they've got older they pick their own stuff anyway.

4andnotout · 02/01/2009 13:40

Im glad im not the only one who hands things down!

NorthernLurker · 02/01/2009 13:43

I have done this in the past but not so much now they are older. They do have a few things that are the same and sometimes dress alike 'to be matching' - as long as they've got clothes on their back I'm not bothered!

Astarte · 02/01/2009 13:43

All mine have had some hand me downs, shoes, coats, clothes. Only underwear is ever totally new.
They do each have clothes bought for them each season because they have different birthdays so it's not always appropriate clothing, but most stuff is reused.

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missymoo2411 · 02/01/2009 14:12

i pass my stuff on all the time especially good stuff but my ds s have different taste so not always suitable but do pass onto friends but the shop thats really cheap starts wthe a pre...k is a god send some off there stuff is great for the kids but not all .i dont pass undies and shoes down tho .

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Bicnod · 02/01/2009 14:13

my mum used to do this to me and my sister... my sister is 6 years younger than me - she loved it, i hated it!!

MamaBear76 · 03/01/2009 19:15

Wearing the same red jumper on outings to very busy places does help you to keep your eye on your kids and helps with the constant counting...

I think the Duggars and Jon & Kate (+8) do this too.

chopchopbusybusy · 03/01/2009 19:19

MIL and SIL used to sometimes buy the same outfits for my DDs. When they look back on photographs now DD1 hates it,says she always hated it, DD2 likes it. I always thought they looked cute, but they tended to be special outfits, rather than everyday ones.

HSMM · 03/01/2009 19:21

My sister is 4 years older than me and when we were little, our Gran used to make all our clothes and they would be matching pairs, so we could wear the same. Didn't bother us, I don't think and we are VERY different to each other.

IlanaK · 03/01/2009 19:21

I don't have a large family (just 3), but I used to dress my older two boys the same (when it was just them). Not every day of course, but they had some outfits the same. I liked it and so did they. But I found that once the oldest was aged 6+ it was impossible to find them the same clothes as the shops had different ranges for different ages.

MmeJaffaB · 03/01/2009 19:24

My dd1 (3.4) wants to wear the same things as her sister (19mths). They only have two matching out fits that they wear ocassionaly but older one always wants a skirt if the babe has one on or jeans etc.....

Personally I love it and think they look very cute dressed the same.

Not sure I would dress a teenager the same as a toddler though tbh.

OHBollox · 03/01/2009 21:32

I do it for family photo's and maybe weddings or something but not for everyday wear, they wouldn't play along anyway, I have one child who won't wear pink, one who loves purple and one who will only wear pink so it would be hard to please all except at Christmas when they all have a red dress.

NomDePlume · 03/01/2009 21:33

ys i du

OHBollox · 03/01/2009 21:33

Ps I wouldn't do it with twins though, i'd make a point of not dressing them the same.

BonsoirAnna · 03/01/2009 21:35

I don't like siblings dressed identically, though sometimes our children have the same item in a different colour to one another just because one of them bought something and the others coveted it.

Generally to be avoided though - children should dress to make the best of their personality and physique.

ItsGrimUpNorth · 03/01/2009 21:37

I saw triplets dressed the same the other day. It was a bit freaky. I kept thinking about those twins in The Shining......

misscutandstick · 03/01/2009 23:15

my 11 and 9 yr DS's LOVE having some of the same stuff - not everyday, but they choose what clothes they want to wear and very often they choose the same T-shirt but with different jeans. So i buy them the same stuff because they like to wear it. I agree that it is difficult to buy totally different clothes for them both as there really isnt the range like there is for girls.

sunnygirl1412 · 03/01/2009 23:46

I used to do it when ds1 and ds2 were little, but by the time ds3 came along, I guess I didn't have the time or energy to do it any more. I didn't do it all the time with the older two either - they had one or two identical outfits, and did look very cute in them (says their utterly unbiased mum), and some that were similar but not identical, which did help with keeping track of them when out and about. I also put them all in the same outfit for my Dad's funeral - to be honest I didn't set out to dress them identically, but having my mind on other things, I think I just took the easiest option.

Of course now they're older, they choose their own clothes, and I have to employ the direst of threats to get them into anything approaching smart clothing - on the odd occasion when I think it is necessary.

retiredgoth2 · 03/01/2009 23:52

I think it is sweet. Here are my children

nooka · 04/01/2009 00:15

I can't imagine how you could actually do this with a wide age range, or really why you would want to. Unless your children are incredibly alike then clothes that suit one will not suit another, which doesn't seem very kind. It's a bit "look at me" I think. I find it quite disturbing to watch things like the Duggans (?odd American family on TV who have 20 or so children), but that might also be because those children don't seem to be allowed to wear what I think of as normal clothes in any case, especially the girls who all wear long skirts/dresses all the time - at my children's school in New York, none of the girls (except dd) ever wore dresses or skirts. I can't imagine a 14 year old being at all happy about having to wear the same style clothes as a three year old. I am the youngest of three girls and wore hand me downs for years and year - that's not great either!

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