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ok, dh is gonna kill me

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maybeishuddagotadog · 19/12/2008 19:25

Have namechanged as sometimes leave myself logged in by accident and don't want dc's coming across this.

We have 5 dc's, were trying for#6, dh changed his mind. Well, seems mother nature had other ideas.

clearblue digital says yes! Due 2 sept.

Dh is gonna go mad, how do i soften the blow?

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georgimama · 19/12/2008 19:28

If you've got 5 will another really make any difference? He probably won't notice him her until the age of about 5...

seriously, congratulations.

Why did he change his mind?

TipsyFairydifferentID · 19/12/2008 19:29

was the deed done before or after he changed his mind?

MrsWeasleyStrokesSantasSack · 19/12/2008 19:29

Congratulations

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maybeishuddagotadog · 19/12/2008 19:32

itwas done after he changed his mind but before having fully discussing it with me.

Oh god, I am thrilled but seriously he's gonna go mental.

We had big row about it actually but didn't actually sort it.

thanks for the congrats

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TipsyFairydifferentID · 19/12/2008 19:37

I think I remember your other thread. TBH, he changed his mind, so he should have been the one seeing to the contraception.

georgimama · 19/12/2008 19:39

There's really nothing for him to go mental about. You have a large family so clearly a pretty fertile pair, you thought he wanted another child and although he was having second thoughts he chose to have sex without contraception.

It will be fine, honestly. How far along are you? I would consider not telling him this side of Christmas if you think he will get stressy about it.

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maybeishuddagotadog · 19/12/2008 19:41

well yes he should and there was no mention at the time. Yes i wanted another child, he didn't but we're equally responsible.

Do you think i'm doing the right thing in waiting till after xmas to tell him. I've told my best friend that's all. Don't want to put a damper on current dc's christmas.

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maybeishuddagotadog · 19/12/2008 19:42

am literally just pg, only tested today.

Yeah, am definately gonna wait, it's not as if i'm announcing to the world and not him. (except for you ot obviously,

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georgimama · 19/12/2008 19:43

Definitely wait. I would anyway - why have an atmosphere over Christmas, which frankly is a pretty stressful ime of year anyway!

Did he tell you why he changed his mind? Is he worried about his job in the downturn?

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maybeishuddagotadog · 19/12/2008 19:47

just changed his mind, doesn't want to do the whole baby bit again, wants me to get a job, (we live comfortably). I don't mind getting a job tbh, would be a nice change with 6dc's at home, something p/t couple eves week maybe.

Our last 2 dd's have been really hard work, demanding, stroppy, (3 and 19mths) and tbh i think it's been a shock after relatively calm, and easy children.

he had concerns about his job, but now knows he's fine.

I hope we'll be ok, We'll have to work it out, people do don't they?

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RudolphtherEDDASnosedreindeer · 19/12/2008 19:50

I read your thread on this the other day(well I assume it was you) Congratulations

(it's Eddas btw in festive mode)

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maybeishuddagotadog · 19/12/2008 19:54

yep that was me. Thanks.

Will just hug my little secret to myself, enjoy christmas with the little darlings and face the music after.

Hopefully won't strt throwing up before new year.

thanks for comments

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Lulumama · 19/12/2008 19:56

i think that he has to be equally responsible for the creation of number 6. can;t lock the door after the horse has bolted or summat

i know who you are , and i would possibly be prepared for the shit to (wrongly) hit the fan from DH, based on what was said before

i presume he was more than happy to have unprotected sex, therefore he has to step up to the responsibilities

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maybeishuddagotadog · 19/12/2008 20:00

oh yes was more than happy at the time lulu.

I'm sure everyone knows who i am, that's ok so long as none of my family do before i tell anyone.

One of those flapjacks you wrere just offering round willy nilly to nappy would be nice though.

Will let you know how we get on.

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Lulumama · 19/12/2008 20:01

you;d better take extra cake, you are eating for two !

Kristingle · 19/12/2008 20:04

i agree with everyone else - if he's the father then he shares 50% of the responsibility - why shoudl be go mad with you?

after 5 kids he shoudl have worked out how you make them

oh and congratulatioins

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maybeishuddagotadog · 19/12/2008 20:05

lovely thank you very much.

off for bath now, dh due back from xmas office do in half hour.

the weekend beckons nd it's nearly christmas. Woohoo. x

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Cadmum · 19/12/2008 21:01

Very pleased for you!

Can't wait to hear how your DH takes the news and I hope that your pregnancy goes well. Give him a mega shock with 6 and 7 maybe... That would be my biggest worry when considering one more!

Merry Christmas and roll on the New Year for sharing your news.

SSSantaClausIzzzComing · 19/12/2008 21:04

maybe you've got twins

congratulations. I would love to have 6 kids, lucky you.

Hope he comes round quick

sorkycake · 19/12/2008 21:46

Yes I know who you are, fabulous news!

I'm really pleased for you

I think I'd keep it a secret for as long as possible, especially given his recent comments.
Make up and move on, he has to come round at some point and nothing does that like attending a scan imho

It's Karma, that's what this is, woohoo!

bronze · 19/12/2008 22:51

Congratulations

Hope he takes it ok

Madmentalbint · 20/12/2008 07:46

Well you didn't get pregnant on your own! He obviously knows the consequences of sex with no contraception (I assume he's worked it out after 5 DC's ) so he's equally responsible.

CONGRATULATIONS!
Have a lovely Christmas

cheapskatemum · 20/12/2008 20:14

It might be triplets! Congratulations!

Dropdeadfred · 20/12/2008 20:17

Congratulations! Will he not guess though by you not drinking all over Christmas..?

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maybeishuddagotadog · 21/12/2008 23:03

thank for your congrats ladies.

I don't drink so no biggie there. Lots of you thinking might be more than one, I'm one of those mad people that would think that would be fab.

Am thinking will leave it till after our niece's birthday on 1st at least, then will see.

Have a great christmas everyone. x

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