I have been anti having more children but the last two weeks I have been sooo broody

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I have name changed mainly because I have been so inistent with RL friends that I dont want anymore and now my body is conspiring against me, I am 32 have 3 children the oldest in secondary the youngest starting primary nest year, so is it normal for me to be getting broody? I have loved getting little bits of my life and control back and now I just want to start all over again, dh would love more kids and now I have told him is dead keen to get in the saddle (no surprise) do you think I should give it some time to see if it is a phase or throw caution to the wind, I am usually very impetuous.

Against
would have to stop work
less freedom
kids activities would have to reduced
dh works away at least half the year

For
house is big enough
car is big enough
kids would love a sibling
i could breast feed again

Ok so if we take a vote say yay or nay, and I will whip the coil out tonight or bench it for a year, careful I really am that impetuous

I absolutely agree that my resposibilty is to the babes I have and this has taken me more by surprise than anyone else, I know how the kids feel and would cope with a new one dd1 would love it, has always been very insinctive and empathetic round younger kids, dd2 less so, would be very helpful and would enjoy playing with a baby when she wanted to, ds would resent not being the baby of the bunch, thank you for showing the other side of the coin, I would like to hear if this is a normal experience to have in your early 30s does my biological clock just not understand that I have had 3, I never imagined having more than 1 and here I am talking about a 4th.

TBH I think our biology, for some of us, means that this situation would never end; if you had a 4th, then it would be about the 5th and so on. However, that is RIGHT for some families! I'm not against big families at all. I just think it's good to try to seperate the situation from the hormones as they don't necessarily match up. Good luck whatever you decide.

But just because DD loves new babies doesn't mean her life choices should become restricted by one.
She'll have her own baby one day and then have to make enough tough decisions then.
Is she a swimmer with the early morning practices and evenings ?
I would say any new additions have to fit around existing children not the other way round and it would be very unfair of you to compromise your daughter.

But just because DD loves new babies doesn't mean her life choices should become restricted by one.
She'll have her own baby one day and then have to make enough tough decisions then.
Is she a swimmer with the early morning practices and evenings ?
I would say any new additions have to fit around existing children not the other way round and it would be very unfair of you to compromise your daughter.

Basically should we try for no.3 or stay as we are, with DS, 4 & DD 14 months??
Pretty much straight after having DD, I felt v complete & that this was our family. I looked forward to getting rid of all the baby stuff once DD had outgrown it....however, everything is still in the loft as I can't bring myself to do it!
Our DD had Group B Strep when 3 weeks old & we came as close as we could have to losing her. Thankfully we didn't & she is here larger than life & an absolute joy. So why am I having this debate? Why can't I say finally that that's it? We have 2 healthy DC's, one of each (the perfect family as people keep telling me). Our DS & DD adore each other - would we be upsetting the status quo? We don't have any family nearby to rely on, things are easier with 2 to stay at parents etc.
Oh, DH has 'no preference either way, but is happy as we are'...

All I will say is that the world is built around the assumption that you will have 2 children and life, finances, holidays everything will be a hundred times easier if you stick with 2.

I would say go for it...i would love to have another but tubes were clipped 4 years ago. I don't think the broodiness will ever go away for me....i just love being pregnant and having a baby around..even the 2 sets of twins didn't put me off.

Good luck with your choosing

We had two gorgeous boys - 3 and 5 now - and I was desperate for a third. I constantly nagged my husband and eventually he gave in (sort of) and I got pregnant...with twin boys, now five weeks old.

I love all my boys, but life would be MUCH easier if we had stopped at two.

That said I am absolutely LOVING having two more babies to play with and I think I would do it all again even if I had known what was coming.

op i wonder what you decided?

all i can add is my own experience

i like you had a family of three and then did a bit of the old getting life back bit

then had another

and another

and another

it IS hard but the gap (6 yrs 3 months was great!)

I loathe breastfeeding so that is always on my list of negative s but here i am baby number six latched on the boob

do let us know!

psycho