please persuade me that #4 is NOT a good idea...

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I have seen many threads here asking for convincing too have a 4th or more!

And I have managed to convince dh to try for no.4, but now I am wondering if this was not such a good idea,

I need to hear all the reasons why stopping at 3 is a good idea and why number 4 could be a complete nightmare. This way if after reading all your excellent reasons I still feel like another baby then I will know for sure it is /is not the right idea.

My reasons for it not being a good idea are:

• At age 40 now I risk health problems for both myself and any baby.
• I have an absolutely wonderful 7 month old baby boy currently asleep in my arms, and I should just enjoy him and not be thinking of another baby already.
• I had horrendous pregnancies with my two boys (although pregnacy with my daughter was ok)
• I would not have the choice to go back to work, certainly if their was a 4th childcare cost.

please help me with other ideas.....

Hello, jsut wanted to say good luck on your hard decision making! If it helps my mum had her 8th (she was vey lucky) when she was 42 and coped perfectly fine apart from the scares of the medical profession and her usual bout of bad sickness, all she says is that she was tired mor...funnily enough

I am also considering another baby and have been having guilt battles in my head! My dh is quite happy about the idea, but I wonder how long I'll keep getting this horrendous broodiness...can't keep having babies can I!

Only you can decide that but, I have 6 and number 5 was at age 41 and number 6 at age 44. I am looking at a lovely month old beside me now and I am changing nappies at 45 and My hips creak a bit when I get up and carry her, but I wouldn't change it for the world. I feel blessed. I did worry about my health and the babies health through the pregnancy which was a rough one, but, I would still do it over again. The 6th I mean, I am definately done now.

Christie1 - I had just read the other posts and was thinking yep I have good reason to be pausing and reconsidering, reading your post made me want to jump in and just get going with number4, I have big respect for you having number 6 now, congrats.

I'd just think of the time you have to spend with them. It's so lovely to be able to have real conversations with your children. Even with 3 it's really hard for me to find the time for a whole game of chess with ds1. How would I ever do that kind of thing with more? I think the practical things like bedrooms, cars etc you just deal with, but you can't make the day longer.