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Is the no. of children you want related to the size of family you come from?

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hotpotmama · 27/10/2008 21:26

I don't know but am guessing so. Have 3, am one of 4, and still feel there's one missing.

Is this because 4 seems more normal to me because thats what I grew up with or is it just because I am a hormonal woman and would still feel like I wanted another even if I had 5 or 6 (not planning on that!)

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asdmumandteacher · 27/10/2008 22:19

I'm one of three girls - have 2 sons - thats quite enough for me

percent · 27/10/2008 22:23

I know what you mean about being a gran. I'm 40 now and I do feel like the old lady at playgroup. Number 5 really took the toll on the old body, was my only hard pregnancy, but 6 was easy peasy like my others. I also have been lucky with fast, easy labours.

Yes it's a good job he went, I'd be here with number 7 if he hadn't

teafortwo · 27/10/2008 22:24

Mmmmmm.... this is really interesting... I have been wondering the same thing lately too!

I would love some university lecturer type to pop in and tell us the science behind it all - whether we get pregnant or not is still down to luck and chance BUT since woman have had more control over fertility more psycology enters the arena too! I wonder are there trends developing between family size we come from and make ourselves? Are people more likely to rebel against their experiences or stick to what was modelled for them? If you are from a family with more than one child does your positioning in the family effect your likelihood to become a parent and if so how many children are you more likely to want/have?

Seriously super subject!!! - I will follow with great great interest!!!

My details if you want them (they don't fit with the topic - sorry!) - I come from a family of 2 children and have 1 child myself!

chunglimum · 27/10/2008 23:26

Am one of six, have only one myself... I dreamed of being an only child but wouldn't be without any of them now. Seriously, I would like another but DH says no; he is one of three and didn't really get on with his siblings.

frankbestfriend · 27/10/2008 23:29

I am an only and I have an only.

Never pined for siblings, and nor does dd. I do worry that she will miss out as an adult with no brothers or sisters, but really we are happy as we are.

juuule · 28/10/2008 17:34

One of 3, have 9

cliffjumper · 28/10/2008 18:17

I'm an only and have three now. Always wanted three since I was young.

I think it's more to do with whether you like kids before you have them. I'm a big kid and constantly buy toys "for the kids" just to see them having so much fun with them.

WinkyWinkola · 28/10/2008 18:20

I'm one of five. I've got two currently.

Would like to have four but we'll take it a child at a time.

DH is one of two and would like to stop at three.

missymoo2411 · 28/10/2008 20:37

im one of 3 but shud of being 4 i am the youngest and a large gap between us 5 and 10 years so i felt left out and i vowed that i would have four and close together and i did mine r 8,6,5,and 18months but i have finished now but would love another dd to even out the numbers tho if had the space and the money but i childmind so i borrow other peeps instead ...

gigglewitch · 28/10/2008 20:40

I'm one of three, and the youngest by a long way. I also wanted three but closer together i.e. no 13yr gaps like me and my sis.
My lot are 8,5, and 3 next month. Don't need to be a genius to figure me out

SharkyandGeorge · 28/10/2008 20:42

I'm not sure, I am one of two and am older by 10 years. I currently have two and would like at least one more probably two so thats four in total.

I'm not sure if this is in rebellion growing up the only child for ten years or just because I live in different circumstances than my mum did when she was having children.

Hulababy · 28/10/2008 20:46

I have one child; would have liked to have a second but it isn't happening.

I am the eldest of 3. I have no desire to have 3 children though; 2 would have been enough. 1 is still lovely though.

omeNofthefleshes · 28/10/2008 20:49

I am one of 3..always wanted 4 or 5 and have 3 and 8wks pg with no.4
Dh is an only child and only really wanted one...maybe 2..obviously ermm things got away with him

aGalChangedHerName · 28/10/2008 20:55

I am one of two. Don't have a good (healthy) relationship with my db or parents. Had massive amounts of cousins tho and loved the camaraderie of that.

I have 4 dc. DS's are 17 and 13 and DD's are 4 and 2.

They are much closer than my db and i. The ds's don't get on as well as i'd like but they are improving with age. The ds's are soooo good to and with their sisters it's unbelieveable.

I think if i died tomorrow(god forbid) i would rather ds1 took care of the younger dc than my parents.

DontlookatmeImscaaarrryyy · 28/10/2008 20:57

Dh and I are both one of two.

We have gone from never wanting any to wanting one and only one, then when ds1 came along we realise how great it was having chgildren and wanted another, now ds2 is here we are thinking about no.3 and are not sure it will end there. Eek.

When do you know that enough is enough?

pistachio · 28/10/2008 21:04

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hotpotmama · 28/10/2008 21:12

I just love it the more I have, love the noise and laughter that fills the house. Don't love all the washing tho!

Think its definitely addictive, apart from the pregnancy bit.

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susiey · 29/10/2008 11:02

I am one of two but don't get on with my brother so well

I currently have 1 dd, and 1 ds and would love 2 more to make 4.

sweetgrapes · 29/10/2008 12:03

Am third of 3. Got 2. Want another 1. (You see, in a way it's me that hasn't come yet!)

But 2 is enough. (or maybe 3)

hannahsaunt · 29/10/2008 12:12

I am one of two and we have a fantastic relationship but both would have loved more siblings (esp during particularly stressful times and the load could have been more shared). Db has 4; we have 3 and would like another - take from that what you will!

FWIW most (but not all!) of the kindest, nicest, most laid back, engaging, sharing people I know are from 4-sibling families - I think there's a lot to be learned from simp;y rubbing along together on a day to day basis that really helps with future relationships and attitudes to the world.

DesperatelySeekingSanity · 29/10/2008 19:18

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JodieO · 29/10/2008 19:21

I'm an only child and have 3 children. I never wanted siblings.

MuAHAHAHAHAHmi · 29/10/2008 20:23

I'm one of 6 but already have DS and happy to stop at 2!

jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 29/10/2008 20:25

I'm an only. I have 3. Was never fussed about siblings, but wanted 3 kids.

idobelieveinghosts · 30/10/2008 08:11

I am 1 of 5...(all girls)

I have 8. (6 boys and 2 girls)

loved having siblings around me..even though we fought all the time...christmas was brill in our house.

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