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oh help....am i addicted to child bearing?
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ButterflyMcQueen · 25/07/2008 21:19

Its such such early days but.....

dont feel like it is over yet and have just had dc 6 !!

It makes me blue as i want to feel like i am done.....but i dont

please say you have felt the same..did it resolve or????

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cafebistro · 25/07/2008 21:23

Have only DC 2 so dont really know how you feel. But dd is 4 months and I feel broody again already. I love babies....its definately the baby stage that I crave.

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ButterflyMcQueen · 25/07/2008 21:24

I have often bemoaned the early bit cafebistro but now i find it so much easier it is sooooo lovely and special!

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cafebistro · 25/07/2008 21:29

Maybe you feel blue because youre thinking that this is the last one..if you know what i mean? Sort of..oh i'll never have a baby like this again. Im sure lots of women must go through it...

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ButterflyMcQueen · 25/07/2008 21:49

hmm yes possible but do i act on it!

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juuule · 25/07/2008 22:24

I've felt the same.
Sorry to say but it didn't really resolve.
Ended up with 9 children and 8 m/c.
Menopause has made the decision for me.
Now quite happy with the family I have and not at all unhappy with the fact that there will be no more babies for me.
I do still mentally replay my pg and births nostalgically occassionally.
Maybe not what you wanted to hear

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TeacherSaysSo · 25/07/2008 22:49

butterfly I felt/feel the same, though I don't have 6. I think you mourn for the child you never had, no matter how many you have! Its the idea that you can't do it again and have all that lovely new baby hormones.

But my BF at school was the oldest of 8 and resented the lack of time her parents spent with her because of the large family. I'm sure it had its benefits but she felt she missed out - so maybe you could focus on how much extra time you will have for your current ones

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cheesesarnie · 25/07/2008 22:52

i think i am (although i only have 3) but doctors have put a stop to that

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ButterflyMcQueen · 25/07/2008 22:53

Juule !! or maybe it is!!

Teachersaysso I have a bit of a gap between the 6 so the olders have had a lot of 'us' and are now teen/pre teen so hate us anyway

have a bit of a gender issue also and wonder if this clouds judgement....hmmm

no right answer

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Stopfighting · 27/07/2008 00:26

BM,

I feel exactly the same ( I have 5) so cant't really help, only empathize...

Trying for 'one more' is on my mind every day, almost like an obsession. No matter how much I think about it, I am no closer to reaching a conclusion.

Does that mean I should have one more?

HELP!!!

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DisenchantedPlusBump · 27/07/2008 00:28

Im pregnant with baby #3 and I can't imagine feeling 'finished' with babies.

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ButterflyMcQueen · 27/07/2008 23:09

my advice to you stopfifgting is yes!

thing is I thought this was deffo my last and i thought that last time and ..... guess what I am thinking about?

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Ceolas · 27/07/2008 23:13

I have 4 and though I'd feel that the 4th would definitely be the last. She's approaching her first birthday and there's no way I feel 'finished'...

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thisisyesterday · 27/07/2008 23:17

butterfly, hatrick told me of your number 6, lovely name btw

maybe the flavour thing is clouding it a bit for you, you need to ask yourself, would you mind if you fell pregnant with twin boys? lol

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ButterflyMcQueen · 27/07/2008 23:33

Thisisyesterday - thankyou

'worried' I think in answer to your question!

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madamez · 27/07/2008 23:36

Do you still like your DC when they are older? Or do you find yourself doting on the baby and ignoring the older children?

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elkiedee · 27/07/2008 23:39

LOL, I saw a programme about a woman having no 7 who had twin and triplet boys among her existing 6. No 7 had appeared to be a girl at the scan, and she was going to be sterilisd after the baby was born, but was saying, if it is a boy can you not do the operation.

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TheDuchessOfNorksBride · 28/07/2008 07:28

I had my 4th in May and this time I do feel finished (well, so far anyway). As lovely as my children are, I really don't want to be pregnant again and I don't want to be babying through my 40s either.

Sorry not to be more use! Would having another baby be a problem or are you hesitant because of the 'wow' factor of ending up with so many kids?! What would your DH/DP think about having a 7th?

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Ready4anotherCoffee · 28/07/2008 08:06

I feel the same, dd2 is now 5mths, and I am already plotting #4

There are times when I think I am completly mad, but not often- usually when dh is behaving like a brat rather than the dc's playing up.

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4andnotout · 28/07/2008 08:12

Im the same, dd2 was supposed to be the last as i was told i was infertile, then dd3 surprised us, now im 27 weeks with dd4 and tbh cant imagine this being my last pregnancy. Im 27 so have plenty of time yet but dp is 43 and doesn't want to be the oldest dad in the playground

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Ceolas · 28/07/2008 08:36

My DH is 41 this month and feels he's getting too old. I'm way younger

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Ceolas · 28/07/2008 08:36

My DH is 41 this month and feels he's getting too old. I'm way younger

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ButterflyMcQueen · 28/07/2008 13:45

Madamez!!

it is not as easy to worship and dote on my older three because they are all horrible ( I jest!) teen and pre teenagers - not generally every parents easiest time

Having said that I have no problem with the boys - just the girl I choose to distance myself from to preserve sanity

My 5.5 year old is the apple of my eye and 2 year old a dream - i am not a particularly 'baby' person

theduchessofnorksbride good thinking 'yes' i do think i am wary of the 'wow' factor - I already feel like 'the woman with 6 children'/ 'the lady with 5 boys' and i already get referred to as 'ohh you must be the ( insert husbands occupation) s wife' when people hear how many children i have

I do feel like i could carry on but do not want stigma - plus with my elders being older its not the mad house people imagine

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mustrunmore · 28/07/2008 13:50

Its really interesting reading all your comments about wanting more and more. I've got two, and I'm soooo pleased not to be ever doing the pregnancy/baby/plastic crap and cots and nappies etc ever again! I love the boys I've got, but I'm just not cut out for this baby business

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scorpio1 · 28/07/2008 13:52

db3 is 14 weeks and we want to ttc again. I seriously cannot ever imagine never feeling those feet in my tummy, never seeing then gaze at you after birth, never BF-ing a tiny tiny again.

I heart babies. DH is 25 and says he is getting too old (pmsl) to have many more, especially as we started so young i dont think he wants to do babes forever.

I also love doing the older bits too, btw.

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anynamewilldo · 28/07/2008 14:39

I knew after having dc4 that i wanted another baby, and dc5 is now nearly 3mths old, i know that i dont want anymore, but then i get pangs of sadness that i will never feel another baby kicking.

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