Room Sharing

[xTinkerbell]

Currently debating #5. I’m unsure though for a few reasons one being room sharing.

We currently have 4 BGBB aged all 2 years apart and with their own rooms. All going to plan if we had a 5th it would be 2 year gap again.

However, we are out of bedrooms and space to extend etc. so 2 kids would need to share. If baby 5 was a boy then 4&5 would share. If it was a girl then 3&4 would share. Ultimately this would need to be until someone moved out so given the current economic situation we could be looking well into adulthood but obviously who knows what our kids will decide to do.

I just worry that sharing will be detrimental and may lead to feelings of resentment for not having their own privacy and space especially with regards to bringing friends over, having relationships etc. and may push them to move out sooner.

We do have a little space off our kitchen diner with sofa bed, tv etc and thinking when they are older and we don’t need the garden toys we could build a summer house that could be used by the kids for a bit of space for etc

but thinking maybe we should stop while we have bedrooms for them all.

Please no comments about time/money etc for them all. We have that covered

It's often assumed that all young children are fine to share and it only becomes an issue when they are older but it does depend on the child.

One of ours is ND and he massively struggled to sleep when young and really needed a room of his own. He is now much better able to cope with sharing on holiday etc.

It's a big risk to take to assume it would be fine.

The other thing is that in a two child family when the kids share, it's fair and equal. But three children getting their own rooms while two share is a recipe for resentment.

@April01 We have worked out that we should be able to split our room we added in our extension down the line. Won’t be the biggest rooms but will fit what they need and would do until someone moved out. Could then take the partition down and reshuffle again so they all have bigger rooms. We’d do that in teenage years once we were out the stage of needing space for toys etc.

I’d love a sister for my DD. I do feel sad she doesn’t have that relationship. However, I’d be equally happy with another boy and I know 5 is my limit so if it was another boy i’d just accept she was meant to be surrounded by brothers and that’s okay.

Sounds like you have worked it all out. Im sure it will all work out. Now all you need is the baby lol