3 boys, 1 girl?

[CareBear17]

We’ve just recently had our 4th baby, 3rd boy. We have BGBB ages 5, 3, 21 months and obviously our newborn. DD was hoping for a sister. Seems happy with baby brother it does often mention she wishes he had been a girl.

He is our last baby as I’ve had 4 c sections now and can’t put my body through it again. Ultimately would love to be able to give her a sister and balance our household a little but even if we did have another there’s obviously no guarantees it’d be a girl anyway and for lots of reasons we’re done even though i’d love one more so she’s destined to be 1 girl in a crowd of boys.

Can anyone with the same mix of 3&1 tell me what it’s like. Will DD likely feel they she gets older living in a house full of boys or will we be okay? What are your kids relationships like? Is your girl close to any of her brothers?

Hey I commented on a similar thread recently. I was oldest girl to 3 boys. Had a wonderful childhood and never missed out. Bossed my brothers around and made them characters in my games, always had my own room, always got special attention for being the only girl. Now as an adult I would love a sister and am sometimes jealous of sisters but never missed it as a child. I am close with my brothers now, we chat on whatsapp every few days, they see my kids every few weeks, we still have a good relationship. We all always liked similar music and tv shows growing up, even if we didn't share other hobbies and interests, I think that kept us bonded in teen years when we hadnt much else in common. The only thing I could complain about is they've always relied on me to sort out presents for our parents :)

I have one girl and 3 boys, also won't have any more children. She does occasionally say she would like a sister, and having only sisters myself I did feel a bit sad for her not to have that relationship (but then I always wondered what it would be like to have a brother!) she adores her brothers and they all love her, she always wants to take care of the little ones. It's nice having one on one time with her if it's something that only interests her, and she has a hobby that is very female dominated where she has lots of very strong female friendships (as well as her friends at school as well). I think we get exactly who we should have in our family.

My SIL is the one girl against 3 boys. She gets on well with her brothers.

One of my close friends, who I went out for dinner with just yesterday, is one girl with 3 male siblings. She's happy, functional, and has a great relationship with her brothers their wives.

They both seem like they would benefit from a sisters if I'm honest. However they're both happy and functioning people.

Sisters give you support and advice in an honest way that brothers can't. E.g. My sisters can tell me my outfit looks terrible, but my brothers / friends can't in the same way without causing offence.

I wouldn't have a 5th though. 4 sections is enough.

@Outside9 I would absolutely love for her to be able to have a sister because I do agree about the support in a way others can’t.

I was told during my last section that I would be okay to have a 5th but it’s not something I want to put my body through because 4 is a lot and even though I was cleared for a 5th there’s no guarantees it would all go okay. Also could just as easily be a boy and then she’d be one girl with 4 brothers.

I once met a lady who had a girl first and then 4 boys in a row. She said she was done trying to get her daughter a sister and instead promised to get her a female dog for company 🤣
I'm sure your daughter loves her brothers but it must also be frustrating for you thinking " what if" the next one is a girl. Maybe down the line you will go again. You could also look into gender swaying to boost your chances of a girl.

I had BGBB but i can't really help you because I had an unexpected fifth baby natural conception after 9 rounds of IVF unexpected) and we had a second girl. The girls are five years apart currently 20 and 15 and are incredibly close but they are all close, maybe because there's only 7 years between them. Personalities I think determine sibling relationships as much as sex though. Congratulations on your latest addition your family sounds lovely.

@pushthebuttonnn funnily enough our dog is female 😂. I do toy with the idea of one more just to see. If it was a boy then it obviously she’s meant to have brothers 😂 I’m never sure what I think on swaying if it really does work or the cases in which it works are coincidence. Pretty sure at least one of my boys, possibly 2 was conceived during ‘girl’ days but I haven’t looked into it huge amount.

@MissSmiley not going to lie sometimes i daydream about a surprise baby 😂 though i also definitely feel it would be a boy if we did have another. Our current 4 are just under 6 years apart so hoping that helps them stay close as they grow up.

Aw Care Bear that's sweet! Does your dog have a girly name? 🤣
I will say I loosely swayed for my last (girl ) and it was successful . The main thing for me was that my vaginal ph levels were very high/alkaline ( you can get testing kits on Amazon to check & you swab with a cotton bud to compare the colour) I was able to bring the levels down to make them more acidic through supplements such as boron and cranberry tablets. Along with timing it might be worth a try 😉

@pushthebuttonnn no she’s called Bailey and people always assume she’s a boy 😂 we had her before the kids.

Had a chat with husband last night. He’s pretty sure he’s done but does admit he’d like another girl just isn’t sure he wants to roll the dice and potentially (probably) have another boy. I feel like I’d be okay with that because at least we tried but also not sure if my body wants to do it again. We’ve decided to leave it till our littlest is one and then have another discussion about it.

My biggest thing is our current four would be able to have their own bedrooms once our extension is done but if we had a 5th that wouldn’t be the case. Not a problem in the short term but feel it’d be important when they were teens/young adults