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Pregnant with third, terrified!

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DownWithCremeEggs · 13/04/2025 14:21

Hi all. DH and I already have 2 DC who are 6 and nearly 3. We ummed and ahhed about having a third for a while, decided to have my coil removed last month in order to prepare to TTC. With both of my previous DC it took the best part of a year to conceive, with careful cycle tracking, taking ovulation tests etc. So we naively assumed it would take that long this time, or perhaps even longer as I'm obviously a little bit older now. You can see where this is going, can't you? 😆
Well, we DTD once during my fertile window a week after having the coil removed, and I'm now pregnant. We are thrilled, excited, happy etc but I'm also suddenly terrified! How will we cope financially, physically, emotionally etc.

DH and I both have good jobs and work opposite shifts so we don't need childcare. We have no real money worries. My job offers a great maternity package which I qualify for. But we're in a good place with the two DC we already have. They're both sleeping through the night, they're both becoming that little bit more independent so we feel like we're getting that little bit of freedom back, and boom now there's another baby on the way. I have to be honest and say I don't particularly enjoy the newborn stage and I had bad antenatal depression/anxiety with my second (it improved massively after he was born though). We only have a 3 bed house so will either need to move or two DC will have to share. We will also need a bigger car.

I am happy, but sometimes I'll think 'Omg, what have we done??'. Please say this is normal?

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Panda8383 · 13/04/2025 22:37

This is totally Normal to feel like this, I was the exact same..had two boys 6 and 5…decided it probs wouldn’t happen and then got a big surprise who is now 6 months old, I have a 3 bedroom house aswell and currently looking for a bigger family car, but it’ll be the best thing when that wee baby is in your arms x

Eenameenadeeka · 22/04/2025 06:06

You'll be fine! Congratulations

Thepossibility · 22/04/2025 16:52

I found going from 1-2 harder than going from 2-3 if that helps. By number 3 a combination of being an experienced parent and also not sweating the small stuff made it easier.

S0j0urn4r · 22/04/2025 16:54

You didn't think about that stuff before having the coil removed?

DownWithCremeEggs · 24/04/2025 14:55

S0j0urn4r · 22/04/2025 16:54

You didn't think about that stuff before having the coil removed?

Of course I did. But when it's theoretical vs when it's a reality...

Not that it matters anymore as I'm currently having a miscarriage. But thank you for your entirely unhelpful comment.

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S0j0urn4r · 24/04/2025 16:08

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MyUmberSeal · 24/04/2025 16:12

@DownWithCremeEggs im sorry to hear that. Sending positivity. x

Ignore @S0j0urn4r , some people like to have the last word, regardless.

MsNevermore · 24/04/2025 16:13

Sorry OP……

edited because I’ve only just seen you’re experiencing a MC 🥺🥺

I’m so sorry 😔💐

DownWithCremeEggs · 24/04/2025 16:17

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You could have ended your comment with the first sentence, not thrown another totally unnecessary barb in. You're really not very nice, are you?

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Panda8383 · 25/04/2025 04:53

I’m so sorry 😔 x

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