Reconnecting

[Alittlesassy]

I know, I know I'm a terrible human being!

I have several wonderful children, and talk to them regularly online, but have been away with the military, and have not been a proper hands on parent.

I'm leaving the military - which helps - but have already had to disappoint them a couple of times when arranging to see them. Any advice on how to support them and reconnect?

Eh? 🤔

Seriously? You're asking advice for how to reconnect with your "several" children ...

Ok right

Be there when you say you will be there is a first step. Otherwise don't promise. There is nothing quite like being let down repeatedly to prevent a relationship from flourishing.

If you can do that, then with time the rest should follow.

Noted.

I think just being available to them and supporting them in their life journey is the biggest thing you can do. Listening to them and their needs is also important. Showing up eveey single time no matter how hard it is, is the most important of them all. Just being around, loving them and supporting them and soon enough with time, patience and consistency, you will repair your relationship.

Why have you ‘had to disappoint them’ ? How old are they ?

It's a long story.

The place I'm staying at at the moment has been sending people away at the door when they come to visit. And I've been having some stalker problems that means it can be unwise to have direct contact with the more sensitive people in my life. It's kind of a mess.

Is it aye?