AIBU on Mother's Day?

[leelou11]

Hi! Quick post, nothing has been said but wanting to sound out others views on the matter.

Had child, 5 months old. First Mother's Day together as a family and I've suggested that we go to the zoo/aquarium for the day. DH is happy with this.

MIL has suggested going to hers for a roast as a family (with her 3 other sons). The weekend prior we are already going out together for a roast. I don't have the best relationship with his mum as she's very overbearing, but I keep my opinions to myself for family's sake.

DH suggested seeing his mother the day before or day after (I am seeing my mother the day after) but MIL suggested that she wouldn't be happy with this and wants to see them all together. She said she's invited me so doesn't see why we can't all go.

AIBU to want to spend my first Mother's Day together as a family, not to include M/BIL? What do others do for Mother's Day?

TIA

Yanbu. It is your Mothers Day too, and you will see her the week before anyways.
Don't know if this is something you'd like to do but could you go out for breakfast with her then go to the zoo at 11 am ish maybe?

This is a tricky one and does come up a lot on here. We've always done our own things and then made other arrangements with my mum/MIL on another date.

I would say as it's your first, set a precedent as whatever you decide this year will likely repeat for years to come.

I like the option of going for breakfast like another poster said but if not, I'd probably stick to my guns and arrange another time.

We ring our mothers for mothers day and on another day we go and take flowers or gifts when we visit. We have our own family now and we do our own thing. Same goes for you guys, you have created your new family and that's what is most important is now setting your own traditions. His mother needs to let go and get over herself, she had her time and now needs to step aside for the new generations. I would visit on another day, take some gift and then let her have her issues as you have done nothing wrong but still celebrated her.