2 or 3 children?

[CalmTaupeCat]

Basically as is in the title. I’ve currently got two beautiful girls and see my life with 3 (if we can buy a bigger house!) but am I doing the two I have a disservice if we have 3 I.e in terms of my time etc…? Currently a 2 year age gap but I would aim for 3 for the next so the eldest would have just started school.

after experience of going for 3 / being one of 3?

I'm one of three and didn't enjoy it. Me and my sister got in well (two years between us, me being oldest) but then had nothing in common with my younger sister as too much of a gap. Also meant that my mum could never come and play with us older ones in the park or at theme parks or swimming because she was having to look after the youngest. I want three kids, but I don't because I don't want to reduce the attention and emotional input my current two have.

Have the exact same age gaps you mention, love it. No way I'm missing out on theme parks or swimming, everyone's experience is different.
First are best buds but that dynamic means they know she will be a proper best bud eventually, but now she's a play thing and they feel lucky when she wants to play
I think once you debate 2 or 3, 3 is inevitable

I have three with 2yrs2mths between first and middle and 1yr11mths between middle and third. I absolutely love it. The youngest slotted in straight away with family life. I'm loving it now as my youngest is 3 and more independent so they can all play together

I'm one of three and have three.

I'm the eldest. DB is under 2yrs younger and then DSis another 2.5yrs younger. As young kids we were all close but also all fought like hell. Adolescence must have been very tricky for my DPs, there was a lot of conflict and that's just what I remember! However we came out of it all strong, as adults we are all close and see each other a lot etc. However me and DB are super close, neither of us are as close to DSis.

Anyway, my three - GBB. 3.5 yrs between the first two and 3yrs between the next lot. They're all little still, so who knows what the future will look like.

I will say though re: the PP who complained about their mum not playing in parks or theme parks with them - I've literally got no memories of my DM playing with me in those settings. But I used to play with my siblings, or cousins, or friends in those situations, I certainly didn't feel any need for my DM to play then tbh. My memory is that the mums just used to sit and chat together in the playground etc!

Just to add something to think about, we went for baby number 3 and got twins 😅 6, 2 and 9 weeks now.

If you want 3 kids then I say go for it. I always say "you don't regret the kids you have, only the ones you dont". And that's probably why I have so many kids hahah. You will have plenty of love and affection to go around and no one will miss out as long as you prioritise your time. Kids are resilient and they only remember the memories you make with them and the time out of your busy day that you took off to be with them.