What made you go for a fourth + baby?

[Puddlesofluck]

hi I’m hoping I can get some advice and experiences of having a large family from you all please.
I have 3 children, the elder two are year 6 and 8 and youngest is a baby. I’d love another to even it out a bit but mostly because I’ve always wanted a big family.
to have a fourth we’d need a bigger house and car. I’d also be nervous about juggling teens and toddlers and not being available for them all equally.
Did you go ahead with a larger family despite needing a bigger car/ more income/ more bedroom space etc?
Did you stop at a certain number to avoid this?
Im really stuck with deciding if it’s a good idea or not, DH is desperate for another and I’d have 10 if we could afford it lol but I also know I need to be practical and sensible so it’s a huge decision.
If any one on here is willing to share their story I’d be grateful.

We had our 4th when our others were 10, 7 and just turned 2. Similar thinking with not wanting the youngest to be alone/left out and also just always wanted lots, I always wanted an even number (middle child myself haha)

There are both pros and cons.. so with the big age gap the older children have their after school activities - we have something every day after school because I don't want them missing out but bringing along one little one was SO much easier than the two, our 3rd was a bit of a runner so trying to chase him around and manage a baby was a lot.
BUT they love each other so much, there's always someone to play with, my daughter loves having the little ones and the two youngest are best mates- the baby is 2 now and follows the 4 year old everywhere.
It is absolutely a lot more stress and work but also a lot of love too ☺️

i’ve not long found out i’m pregnant with my 4th. By the time baby comes the others will be almost 5, almost 4 and 21 months. Our house is a 3 bed but we always planned to extend anyway. In the meantime we’ll get rid of our dining room and put our will be 21 month old in there. Again this was always the plan as the dining room is off the hall and we planned to extend to a kitchen/diner anyway. Once baby is out of our room they’ll be other share with my second or third and we’ll eventually add another bedroom when we extend.

We have a seven seater already but were going to get one that was a little bigger anyway obviously now it’s necessary but again, was the plan.

My opinion is that I really wanted another so we went for it, we’ll work all the other things out

We have quite a large family. When my husband and I decided to extend our family my husband decided to start his own business to make more income so we could still continue to provide a good lifestyle for our kids and I was able to become a SAHM, we extended our house with an extra room and looking to extend again, we already drive a 14 seater mini bus and 2 of our adult kids have moved out of home and 2 more are embarking on getting their licences. In all honesty if you want to extend your family then you find a way to manage and it honestly works out one way or another.