Help me to think rationally about the possibility of no. 6!!

[Stopfighting]

We have 5 and I'm toying with the idea of no. 6 but I seem to have become too paranoid to think about it rationally.

All I can do is worry about the possibility of something being wrong, ie what if my luck runs out kind of fear. I can't stop thinking how awful it would be to go for another one out of some kind of 'greed' for want of a better word, and then upset the apple cart if we had a child with a serious disability, or if something happened to me.

I'm also paranoid about something going wrong at the birth even though my births are totally straightforward.

Part of me thinks we should 'quit while we're ahead and part of me thinks 'Stop

HELP!!

Sorry, rushing to go off to school

That last line should read: Part of me thinks we should 'quit while we're ahead' and part of me thinks 'Stop being so paranoid and negative, and get on with it'.

We pushed our luck having our last baby, but we didn't know it at the time, so I understand. Only you can make the decision. Is the risk worth another baby? How old are you?

To be honest, rationally the risk is small.

I'm 38.

Did you consider the problem you have at all before you became pregnant with your last baby?

I didn't think there was a problem when we tried for our baby. It wasn't until the pregnancy progressed (lost his twin/risk of SN) and then in labour that there was a problem. I couldn't have not had him but there is no way my husband will let me have another one.

We all take a risk when having a baby and only you and your dh can decide if it is another child you want or is it that you only want a perfect child if that can exist. Every child brings its joys and a little hearache. I have been in this position and made the decision that any child would be welcomed and loved you need to decide if a child with special needs could have a great quality of life surrouded by you and your children and could you all embrace what you may receive in return it may benefit your children enormously and make them better people.

only you can decide and anyway the massiive majority of pregnancies and births are perfectly strauightforward.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.