Now forty, expecting #4, and a fourth cesearean...

[tillergirl]

Yes, I do believe #4 is on the way

I mentioned in another post the negative stuff I heard from my mum about #3...

Sure, I'm now forty, and I know I'll be having another c-section (after 3, the first was an emergency...)

I'm a bit frightened at the dreaded maternal serum test, as I had 'false positive' readings with all three of my others (I had my first baby at at 33) No ob gyn has been able to explain that one to me. My dates were right, etc.

I'd love to hear advice, words of wisdom from any of you 'older mums' who are still on the baby wagon.

Seeing as I'm keeping this a secret until about July....or as long as I can.

Seems crazy, but I can't deal with the flak.

Thanks for listening...

I had a fifth section at 37 last year with no problems
pregnancy went ok though was starting to feel my age a bit

its fantastic news enjoy enjoy enjoy!
i kept it quiet till 22 weeks though

Congratulations

I've only had 2cs but was 43 with dd2. I never had a blood test with dd1 (40 yrs old) or dd2 (43 yrs old) because of the risk of a false positive.

I had just a nuchal scan at 11 weeks. When that looked OK I decided on no other tests. Dh and I had already agreed that we would not have amnio, so blood test was redundant in our case.

You need to let GP know early if you are going to get a nuchal done in time - you probably know that already.

In my area they insisted you have a nuchal AND a blood test. I pretended to agree, but then refused to have the blood test after they did the nuchal

What 'flak' are you expecting???

Hi fondant

Well, the flak I guess will be 'how could you ???' and 'your life will be over !!!' which is some of the flak I got from my mother about dd 3.

DH and I are both happy though. We are not particularly well off financially, although I've always been very frugal. We're working on our own house and dividing rooms as we go

Thanks so much for your postive comments..

I knew I'd find support here.

ooohhh!i want a 4th and it would be csection.im not an older mum(im 30) but wanted to say congratulations and good luck!

I had a false positive with DD1. Apparently, if you are thin/underweight, (I was at the time), they are more likely. Refused a blood test with DD2 and will have the nuchal in 3rd pg. Best of luck adn congratulations!

staranise....thanks so much.

I am on the thin side (120lbs, 5ft9)

nobody has EVER taken that into consideration.

I knew someone here would have some answers

I think you've probably got past the 'ruined your life' stage with your mother when you had no. 3 tillergirl

Hopefully she's totally given up on you by now and will let you get on with enjoying it.

If I wasn't 44, I'd probably be thinking of another squidgy, wriggly, huggy baby - enjoy

Hi Tillergirl, I really know how you feel. I have had 'negative mother feedback' every single time I told her I was pregnant.

By the time the last few came along, I was hardened to her negativity.

Ignore it, it's your life and enjoy the new baby

I dunno anything about serum test, but my friend had a 5th cesearian at age 40 (6th child). All went well, if it's any encouragement to you.

Good luck!

I got 'Oh you're not, are you?' from my mum upon telling her about nos 4 and 5. Nice.

Having my 6th at 44 in 25 days. I was worried about the negative reactions but, to be honest, haven't gotten one. Most women keep telling me how lucky I am. The only negative is my MIL who made cracks about baby 4 at age 39 that I was too old. Any way, dh, dreading dealing with her, only told her about a few weeks ago so she has had no time to get all worked up and didn't say anything really negative. Probably too shocked!