Vasectomy

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Husband is due his vasectomy tomorrow. I've suddenly got cold feet. I am 36 and husband is 41. We currently have two boys aged 1 and 5.

I have these thoughts that I never had before. Like I'll never have a girl or ill never be mother of the bride etc. Daft I know.

Deep down I know we are well suited with the two boys we have. I'm pushing 40 and currently over weight and need a health kick. I've had hyperemesis with both pregnancies and don't particularly cope well with the newborn stage and sleep etc.

Maybe it's just because it's final.

Anyone? X

I had mine last Friday and my wife and i both had all these feelings. It is a big thing. You could wait a few more years to have it. You are only 36.

Have you posted in larger families in the hope that people will dissuade you from going ahead?

I would delay if you are not sure. 36 is not pushing 40!

If you are both unsure then don’t go ahead. Better to wait and make the right decision than rush and make the wrong one (I had sterilisation and then had it reversed it was a stressful time )

Thank you everyone. I've had a lengthy talk with my husband today and he said he is more than happy with 2 and really doesn't want anymore. I know deep down it's what I want too. It's just so final.

We spent the last week with his auntie and uncle who have 8 children and it was just so lovely being around such a huge family. I just pictured myself at Christmas with my children and their families and imagined having lots of people

Ps I'm actually 37 and will be 38 in March. Sorry for the typo

Thank you. I hope it went well for you

I didn't really know where to post this

Yes I can imagine. Hope you went on to have lots of babies