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when does survival mode end with 3 kids?

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Lefmry · 01/10/2024 12:22

Okay so I’m really early days in to having 3 as littlest is only 4 weeks old, eldest is 5 and middle child is 20 months.

My eldest is perfection, sleeps all night and at school all day so I get some respite and honestly is a lovely kid. He does have ASD so has his challenges but for the most part he demands very little and is happiest when in his own company.

My second boy is an actual real life whirlwind. He is go go go all day it feels like. He really came in to our lives and made us realise just how hard parenting is with neurotypical children as my eldest with ASD has always been so placid and laid back. He is a lovely little chatty thing and we adore him but oh my god he really can be hard work.

I’m just wanting to ask when does it get easier? Does it even get easier? 🤪 I don’t currently work and my partner is out of the house long hours but is very hands on when he is home which I’m grateful for. I live 5 hours away from immediate family too which is really crap as I have no family near that can help occasionally.

I have just wrestled toddler to take a nap so I can have a breather. He is in that horrendous not wanting a nap but still absolutely needs one phase. He is also waking at night too, I suspect back molars are starting to make an appearance. But oh my god, sitting on the edge of his bed, rubbing his back waiting for him to fall asleep whilst I breastfeed his sister is tough. He can fall asleep on his own but it’s 50/50.

Positive stories?? Please? 😂

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BungledBundle · 01/10/2024 12:45

I have 3 (now teens) with similar age gaps to you and was in similar circumstances - work/husband-wise and no immediate family.

For me, it got easier every few months, so when your newborn is in a bit of routine, once they can move, when your middle one goes to nursery etc etc. By the time your middle one is at school with one at home, you will feel like you are on holiday Grin.

Life with 3 is busy though: the primary stage with all the clubs takes some juggling. And 3 teens are extremely messy!

Springadorable · 01/10/2024 12:49

It improved at around six weeks for us, but deteriorated rapidly when the baby started crawling. Up until then her two year old brother largely ignored her, but as soon as she was a threat to his toys we had a very stressful year.

ItsKaos · 01/10/2024 13:43

I have three DCs with very similar age gaps.

I found it got easier when my youngest was 14wks and my husband left my middle child started nursery. 😂

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