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I’m pregnant with my third. Eldest is a 3yo boy, youngest a 1yo girl. There will be almost exactly two years between each of them if all goes OK with this pregnancy.

It looks like baby 3 will be a boy! I really don’t mind what I have, and have never had a preference. So I’m a bit surprised as I’ve found myself worrying since I found out the sex. Mainly, I think, how it might be difficult for my daughter being in the middle of two boys. My mum was the middle of BGB and says she didn’t like it growing up, so I think that’s contributing to my fear.

Subconsciously, I must have been thinking it would be preferable to have two the same sex together. It’s not a case of preferring to have a girl over a boy at all - I’d have also been very happy with three boys or BBG.

Obviously, I know that the sex of the baby is basically immaterial and that these worries are ridiculous.

But - is anyone a middle girl, or have BGB and can reassure me?

I’m a middle girl and I LOVED growing up with my two brothers, we were all so close as kids. Constantly sleeping in each others beds, playing video games, each others friends were also all of our friends, we all got on SOOOOO well. I’m 31 now and brothers are 34 and 29 and we still get on. My younger brother regularly rings me if he needs advice or to vent about family members etc. We’ve all also been through the same illness so have bonded strangely through that too as adults. I have nothing but fond memories of growing up with two brothers and I mean that so honestly. Did we fight and argue? Yeah of course, but that’s all siblings no matter their genders.

Thank you! I’m sorry that you’ve all had to experience the same illness, but it’s lovely to know how close you all are.

Mine were BGB too, I chose to look at it as that making them all unique as we had eldest, youngest and a girl. They are all close now they are grown up.

Not exactly the same scenario as your situation, but wanted to post anyway. I have G,G,B,G.
They are all so close.

The girls are grateful to have each other, and are old enough to appreciate the dynamics that a brother brings to the family, and DS is grateful to have his sisters, as he can relate to girls so much better than many of his friends can, who don't have sisters.

In your situation, if I was a mum of three, I'd be feeling a bit smug that they were this way around!
If DD was the youngest, there would be greater potential for her to be a bit precious. I bet she'll have just the right amount of tomboy in her, and will be able to hold her own. Plus, if middle child syndrome is a thing, she has her own unique position in the family as the only girl.

And of course, your youngest will fit right in, because he won't know any difference.

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

Just read that back, and have typed it wrong! I have GBGG!

Thank you @Evenstar and @NeverGuessWho!

I've got BGB and it is fabulous. I brought my children up as people and not by societal dictations on their gender. They are brilliant and it is a great combination. They are really close now and woe betide anyone hurts the other.

My daughter is also in the middle of boys and everyone gets on well. She fights way less with her brothers than I fought with my sisters at that age!

As for feeling left out, she never does. They all do similar activities. And she loves not having to share her "stuff" ie clothes, cosmetics etc.

I have a daughter, the second child of 4 and the rest are boys. She will occasionally say that she wants a sister, but she adores all of her brothers, wants to care for the younger and they all love her. She has loads of female friends at school, in our neighborhood and at her after school activities. And sometimes we get 1:1 time for things that just she enjoys, and I love that too. I think in your circumstances (which was ours until we had our last wee boy)it's perfect because she's the "middle child" but it felt different as a parent as being the middle of 3 girls myself.