Not sure i'm posting in the right topic for this. Not actually me but good friend (lets call her Amy) in this situation, got me thinking.
Amy and DH separated, she has 2 primary school age DC. she's fairly recently met a new partner who has 3 DC, similar ages to her own dc. Amy's dc live with her majority of the time, exH has them 1 evening/week, picks up from school and has them for dinner but takes them home for bed, exH has them every 2nd weekend, Friday school pick up until sunday after dinner. Amy is happy with this, her and exH have agreed this works well and is best for the DC for now.
New partner has his dc every 2nd weekend and 1 over night stay during the week. The question is, is it best for them to have their dc the same weekend so they're basically doing mass child stuff with 5 dc or different weekends. Until now they haven't done much with all the dc together but the dc all seem to get on very well and will possibly happen more in future. Amy's concerned she/new partner won't have as much quality time with their own dc if all kids are together and it'll be too manic but is feeling like her and new partner have no time together because whenever she doesn't have her dc, partner has his. What have others found in this situation works best?