Single child parent

[Clipclop88]

My first time posting on here.
I am a mum of 6 year old boy, I had severe PND and still suffer from depression now. I have been in two minds about having a second child for the last few years. Seeing others having children/second child has made me broody and also the thought of my child growing up without a sibling. He often asks for a sibling.

my main concerns are depression, I slip in and out all the time and really won’t want that again after a second child. Also finances will be a struggle, working full time, nursery/school pick ups especially with the age gap. I’m on antidepressants and there is a risk of deformities in baby.

husband is happy with one child. Says we have the perfect healthy child, we don’t need another. He doesn’t want to risk my health for another child.

any advice please, if you’re in or have been in similar situation. Anyone who has one child and does not regret not having another.

the thought of this recently has made my mental health worse. I can’t get out of bed I cry randomly I can’t eat and have horribly feeling in my stomach all the time. All signs of when I was depressed last time.

@Clipclop88 it depends on your the drivers of your PND and the potential likelihood of the issue recurring.

You of course have to prioritise yourself, and your current family, above any figurative child.

Pressing the reset button won't be without it's challenges and pressures.

I definitely would not risk having another baby especially given that it would be high risk.

I'm a single parent to an only and its not what I planned but it is the way it is. Later on in life I hope that DS has a big family or at least 2 kids of his own and he leads a happy life.

Its been hard work and I have had to accept my luck rather than end up in a worse situation.

'my main concerns are depression, I slip in and out all the time and really won’t want that again after a second child. Also finances will be a struggle, working full time, nursery/school pick ups especially with the age gap. I’m on antidepressants and there is a risk of deformities in baby. '

I can't imagine any pros of having a second child would outweigh the above.