9yo and 3yo, will I regret a third?

[iamnewpleasebenice]

Hello, my heart is aching for a 3rd but my head says focus on the two you have.

Before you ask, I have the space, stable careers, we can upgrade cars, I have a boy and girl already so have a nice balance but for some reason I am scared of the unknowns but why was I not scared when 1 and 2 came along?

The gap was a planned one, I do prefer gaps but worry that a 10yo may not like a baby round and May feel left out when the little two start playing together?

Not too sure what I'm asking here but I sway from one end to the other on a daily basis and have done for the past month. Do these thoughts go away?

Honestly? There would be good and bad about both. So go with your heart and TTC for a while and see what happens? Even if the older one feels a bit left out, by the time it happens (that younger two play together) they will be preteen or teenage and ready for some more independence and time to themselves or with peers so might well work out nicely. Same for family holidays in the future once older one gets a job or whatever they might not go on holiday past 16/17 so younger two will still have company…

Kids need time more than they need almost anything else. Why not give the two you have all your time rather than having another child that will take away a lot of time for the first few years at least.

15 ywara between me and my youngest and we were chatting on the phone for 2hours yesterday.

I've got a sibling 5years younger I can't stand and rarely speak to.

Age gap isn't the best determinant for how close siblings will be.

Thank you. I don’t drink hehe. Do you work while managing 9 kids?!

I'm the same atm, would and wouldn't love another. We have 6 already so that should be it for us as they are expensive, money and time wise. Still can't help but be broody though.

Only you can decide if adding more is going to be worth it.

A big problem is going out as a family. With such a wide age gap you will be hard pushed to find outings that suit all three.

I had a third, similar age gaps and it was the best decision for us. My heart ached for a third and I didn't want to feel regret in older years. He's my absolute treasure and brought the best out of his older brothers who are amazing with him. Yes, there are sacrifices but 100% wouldn't have it any other way.