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18 replies

ZippyLimeCrow · 19/03/2024 01:30

Hi, just looking for opinions on bedroom arrangements for 5 kids in a 4 bedroom house.

Blended family.

Kids are F 12 M 10 M 10 F8 and M5.

Two of the kids would be living there all the time and three would be staying over at least 3 times a week.

Thanks

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MineAgain · 19/03/2024 01:38

Which kids are there all the time and which would only be there 3 times a week? Do the ones staying 3 nights have their own bedroom at their other parents house?

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ZekeZeke · 19/03/2024 01:40

How big are the bedrooms

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ZippyLimeCrow · 19/03/2024 01:46

M 10 and F 8 would be there all the time.

Yes the other three have their own rooms in their mothers house.

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UpsideLeft · 19/03/2024 01:57

It's tricky

I'd be giving the DC who live there permanently their own bedrooms naturally

I'd then ask them which of the other DC they'd be happy to share with when they come to stay

If none then as the other DC have another home with they're own individual bedrooms then I'd have to put all 3 in the 4th bedroom

Hopefully all the DC get on so it won't come to that

But they all deserve their own bedroom in their houses

Do they all have to come at the same time? Do they want to come at the same time ? They might want to come separately

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UpsideLeft · 19/03/2024 02:01

I feel sorry for the F12 the most because that's an awkward age moving forward

Nothing wrong with the 3 sharing a room

But if the girls get on well then makes sense for them to share on those nights if DD 8 is genuinely ok with it

It'll be a bloody nightmare though if the 2 girls don't get on then they absolutely should not share

If the boys all like each others company then makes sense for them to share but being twins they'll take over DS 5 for whom it might be a bit much

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colabottle5 · 19/03/2024 02:01

F12 and M10 will be a bit too old to share so it's not a long term solution. I would put the two M10 boys in one room but try have a little partition. F8 own room, F12 & F5 sharing. Obviously last room for parents.


I would give priority to those who live in the house FT.

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colabottle5 · 19/03/2024 02:03

colabottle5 · 19/03/2024 02:01

F12 and M10 will be a bit too old to share so it's not a long term solution. I would put the two M10 boys in one room but try have a little partition. F8 own room, F12 & F5 sharing. Obviously last room for parents.


I would give priority to those who live in the house FT.

oh no i misread M5 as F5. I will have to rethink this.

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UpsideLeft · 19/03/2024 02:05

Its awkward isn't it

Maybe put the boys together and give F12 her own room

DS 5 will probably love sharing with DS 10 and 10 who hopefully think he's adorable and not be too bothered at that age

So yes boys all together

And DD12 her own room

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colabottle5 · 19/03/2024 02:06

Are the rooms big enough for each gender to share? Perhaps all three boys in one room and the two girls in the other room? Then the third room maybe you could make it like a study for the two who live their FT. So they each have a desk and space which they can personalise . If there's enough space can add a third hot desk. Not sure if this is a viable option but just a thought.

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UpsideLeft · 19/03/2024 02:07

Boys tend to not be bothered about sharing so much

Older girls want / need their own privacy especially as she gets older

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Ponderingwindow · 19/03/2024 03:23

How long have the children known one another? Do they have a long-standing sibling like relationship that has been slowly formed over many years? Or is this two separate sets of children being put together?

It makes a big difference as to if you can mix the groups for bedrooms.

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PickledPurplePickle · 19/03/2024 05:27

Do you have any other rooms that could make a temporary bedroom?

How well do the children know each other?

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WandaWonder · 19/03/2024 05:31

What do the kids themselves what to do? has theor opinion been asked?

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HaPPy8 · 19/03/2024 05:38

II’d give oldest three their own rooms.

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dancinginthewind · 19/03/2024 05:55

To be clear, is this a 4 bed house so you & your partner will be in one room with three bedrooms available for the five DC. Or are there four available bedrooms for the five DC?
What available downstairs rooms are there? For example, where can the eldest do homework? Will any of the children need to play or game in their bedrooms or is there a playroom or snug or something. Do any of the children play musical instruments and, if so, where will they practice?
As a PP asked, how well do they all get on?
How does the 3 nights a week work? Presumably it's not alternate nights. What happens in the holidays and things?
Do you know if any of the children have shared previously.?

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lala567 · 19/03/2024 07:22

That sounds like a nightmare.

I had to share with 2 stepsisters. They had their own room at their mums and once we were over 16 they used to turn up whenever. I hated it.

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ZekeZeke · 19/03/2024 09:12

Priority should be given to those who live full time in the house.
M10 and F8 get their own room.
M10 and M5 share
F12 bunks in with F8 for the 3 nights. Put some kind of partition/rail with curtain even to separate.

Or get a bigger house!

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user1492757084 · 07/04/2024 12:51

Try giving F8 the largest room. Organise a privacy barrier so that F12 can share three nights per week comfortably.

Put M10 in the smallest room.

The third children's bedroom, put the two brothers M10 and M5.

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