New baby - Competitive families

[chachasliding]

Has anyone had experience of competition between the two families when a new baby is born?

Our baby is 5 months, first grandchild/nephew on both sides.

I am very close with my family and see them a lot. My in laws have recently put pressure on us saying they don't see him enough and turned it into what feels like a competition by bringing up how much I see my family. I think they're loosing sight of who's baby this is and the fact that my family are also spending time with me. It's not even that they don't see him a lot - every couple of weeks which is more than enough!

[Outliers]

You'll be very grateful for the competition in 6 months.

[atotalshambles]

yes. Absolutely and also competition within families for number of children/how 'gifted and talented' children are etc.. it is all completely irrational and I would zone it out and not get involved. The years when your children are small are so special and I would carry on with doing what you feel is best for them.