Family drama

[mammaof3x]

SIL has pulled me to one side to discuss my brother calling his child something she had her heart set on. I didn’t call my children this due to her liking the name at the time despite her having no children. I’m now sat at her and her mums like a lemon. There’s been a history of drama here and we’ve only just rekindled. I can’t help my brother liking a name, she never even sees him? The previous drama was them requesting a DNA test on my first born (we have 3) because he doesn’t look like his dad and the other 2 do. My first born is the spit of me! Help lol😭

What help do you need? Don’t engage with arseholes, it makes life easy and enjoyable.

How is she related to you? Is she your other brothers wife or your husbands sister? Either way, what is she expecting you to do about it?

Sounds like it’s the husbands sister, but it really doesn’t matter either way.

Your SIL sounds like a master stirrer, always outraged. Well done for coping.

I think your line here is sympathy since you never had a vote in any of it. Try to be as sincere as possible. It sounds like for your SIL, this is very intense. If you're on MN even occasionally, you'll know that 'XX stole my baby name' is a frequent thread.

Your point about not seeing each other is realistic - there are multiple name overlaps in both my family and my husband's but we've always managed. But we're low on drama ...

Go back to the bar. Order whatever you like best: orange juice, fizzy J2O, double whisky. Smile benevolently at your relatives and in-laws. @C00k has got you covered.

Tell her it's fine to use her favourite name, anyway.
Surnames will be different. The kids are not close cousins.
Be sympethetic.