Pregnant with fourth - eek!

[Kenno85]

Hi everyone,

Just needing somewhere I can voice my feelings. Found out this week I’m pregnant with my 4th. We have 3 boys aged 6, 4 & 1. We have been on the fence about having a 4th but more recently I’ve been thinking our 3 boys are enough!

Financially it would be a constraint but I know we’d manage. We already need a bigger 7 seater car, we live in a 3 bed semi so would need to move anyway at some point.

My 3 pregnancies were easy (aged 32, 34 & 36) but I’m now 38 and defo feeling it, not sure I have the energy to get through another pregnancy and those first few months again. I also have a mild prolapse so I’m anxious about how my body will cope with carrying another baby.

My husband is super supportive and happy with whatever decision I make. We have discussed a termination briefly but I just don’t think it could be an option for me, not sure if I’d feel too guilty and have regrets.

If anyone has been in a similar situation then please share some words/support. I know we can cope with what life throws at us and 4 surely isn’t soo much more crazy than 3 right?! 😂

Congratulations! I've just had my fourth and she has slotted in perfectly. It's a mad house but it was crazy with 3 too so not much has changed!

Ahh congratulations x

Congratulations!
I’ve just found out I’m pregnant with the fourth one. I’m in complete shock. I’m not sure how it happened but I’m guessing it’s a mix of perimenopause symptoms and irregular cycle. In total shock as it definitely wasn’t planned. I have 2 teenagers 16 and 14, an almost 8 year old and I’ll be 44 when the baby is born. Not sure what the family will say! I will be judged but they won’t tell me in front of my face.
Don’t hesitate if you want to chat

I went for an elcs due to mild prolapse. I did get miserable pikes towards the end l, so recommend lots of pelvic floor exercises and prepared to use those laxatives! Sorry if tmi.

Congrats! I just found out I'm pregnant with DC4, my other children are aged 3y, 2y and 2m. My other kids were planned but this one has come as a bit of a surprise. I couldn't "terminate" (kill) this life growing inside of me either, I couldn't cope with the guilt. We are still in shock so I know how you feel but it will all be okay. How are you getting on? Btw I just found out today there are 3-4 seater car seat benches to fit in the back of a car, they're quite pricey (£1,700) but less expensive than having to buy a new car lol, they're called "multi-macs" if you're interested

Thanks for your message. For the moment I’m still in complete shock and a little bit in denial tbh. I’ve got a doctors appointment on Wednesday to get a prescription for a blood test to confirm. And yes the car, we’ll definitely have to think about the car as we have a golf Volkswagen from the early 2000.
I’ll keep in touch