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incognito78 · 17/09/2023 11:42

I live with my in laws. It’s just the two of them. I have two little ones who I do absolutely everything for. Like I tend to every need I get everything for them. Till this day they’ve not got them anything except a dress. No toys nothing and when my family gift them toys she’ll say there’s too many and she doesn’t need them. She’s a baby they love toys.

Anyway my mil is always trying to pull my daughter from me. I say something and she constantly undermines me. My husband said it’s normal but I don’t think it’s normal to be so nosey over kids who are not yours. My daughter goes through phases like when she’s obsessed with me for weeks on end to the point she won’t leave me alone and then for like a week she’ll go to her mil to play or soemthing and every so often come back to me to play with my hair or something.

I noticed that my mil forces kisses feom her or gives her kisses and says oh thank you for the kisses when I know full well she’s not given her any. It’s always soemthing she does to almost bother me. She knows it bothers me as I have PND and these were factors that triggered me maybe from unsolved trauma I don’t know. Like my daughter will be all over me. Not leaving me alone/ kissing me cuddles the works stuff she doesn’t do with anyone else.

Will she always love me the most

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Jamjarcandlestick · 18/09/2023 08:03

OP I think you’ve posted this in the wrong board - maybe in the relationship board?

your DD will always love you but it’s good that she’s got other people that love her and that who she loves.

it sounds like you’re not a massive fan of your MIL - any chance you could all move out?

Kaybee93 · 19/09/2023 22:17

Your DD will always love you and your husband the most. I had our in laws living with us for nearly 5yrs and it became bad at the end. It's lovely that your DS will have a good relationship with your MIL and that you guys can get help when needed. But your MIL needs to know her boundaries and your husband needs to help enforce them with it being his mum. I'm sorry that you're going through PND, I had it with my first born and sometimes it doesn't help your insecurities having someone who's done the motherhood thing already. You are DD's mum and no one can compete or replace you, you literally made DD. I know it's easier said than done when you're struggling with PND.

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