Sleeping with grand parents

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So my in laws are literally desperate to sleep with my toddler. She’s 16 months and they’re either late 60s early 70s.

We co sleep with my daughter and she only really settles with me.

Taht aside I’m also uncomfortable with my daughter sharing a bed with anyone else. I don’t know I have post natal depression so I’m scared she might love them more thag me. My MIL already acts like they’re parent and as though she loves them more than I do.

anyone else uncomfortable or is it just me?

No way. I wouldn't allow it.

I think your worry that she will love others more than you is a little unusual. However not wanting in-laws to sleep with her is perfectly normal. They are the weird ones.

Hi I have post natal depression so I'm always worried she would love others more than me. Is that possible?

No this is strange.
DS had a really bad dream the first time he stayed at PIL without us and got in bed with them, FIL went and slept in the spare room as he felt that was the appropriate thing to do. I appreciated that

Oaky, your pnd makes sense about the worry about them loving others more. Hopefully that will ease as your pnd improves.

But even very relaxed parents often don't want their DC away from them overnight. And there is no need for them to be away. Stick to your guns on what you are comfortable with.

I used to stay at my grandparents as a child ..
I had my own room but in the morning I'd get into bed between them and they'd tell me stories or sing me songs ...those memories are special to me..grandma would make some tea and bring it up with biscuits...a real treat !!!

I think it's strange that the GP's want to sleep with a small child. I have dgc and wouldn't even think of suggesting that. If a dgc comes into bed in the morning for a quick cuddle that is different. I would just say no you want to sleep with DC. Also no one will ever take your place in your child's world. You are her Mum and Mums are special people.

I know plenty of people who bed share with young grandkids when they're doing overnight care.. particularly when the grandparents don't live locally so I guess it's a novelty/extra closeness. Always initiated/wanted by the toddler/young child though obviously and always with option for them to have their own bed space to sleep in too should they wish.

My DD LOVES a sleepover with grandparents. She has one every 3 months or so. But the crucial difference is that she is nearly 7. She didn't start sleep ing over at theirs until she was nearly 4, and she is always the one asking for one, not grandparents pushing.

You are the parent. If you are cosleeping presumably this is with DHs blessing. So nobody gets an opinion but you. Do what YOU are comfortable with. The mumsnet "that doesn't work for us now, I'll let you know when that changes" is your friend in this situation. Just calmly repeat.