How to stop broodiness

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Background I have a 3 year old and 8 month old. Struggled both times with PPD but I cannot shrug off the broodiness for a 3rd. I am so happy with my 2 now and I look back at how I was in the first 4 months and it’s like looking at a different person I was so low and I don’t know why. I know sticking at 2 is the right think as going through that for a 3rd time wouldn’t be sensible but I feel like our family is not complete.

I what is it like going from 2-3 , give me the advantages of sticking with 2.

I think maybe I feel like this as I go back to work in a few months and worried about leaving my little one.

You will always want another once the baby days are over, but you have to make a sensible decision for your family.
When I was in my 40’s I had a real longing for another baby, but it was my hormones talking, not my head.

I’m 36 , I think I just need to get back to work get to normality and hope I will then feel less broody Very lucky to have 2 healthy kids and I am getting older so risks will be higher. Just got a lot of love to give I suppose ha

I disagree. When I had DC4, I knew I was finished. I did not have that feeling after 2 or 3. It was very very strong.

But, it's not something for Mumsnet to debate, it is for the parents to decide.

You know your limits, financially and emotionally.

Yeah I think I thought I would have the feeling of 2 and done and not even think about another. Still early days will see how I feel in a year.

And my hubby would have a houseful ha

*house full

I have just had my 4th. I found the jump from 2-3 to be difficult but I did only have a 17th month age gap between babies 2 and 3 (4 years between 1&2). That being said it was a planned small age gap as I didn't want there to be too big of an age difference between DC1 and DC3. Difficult as it was I wouldn't change it. I had a surprise baby no4 and I love our big chaotic household, there's never a dull moment.

the only real problem I've found with 3 children is finding a hotel to fit us all in the one room on holiday but I don't think that's a huge concern really and not something that affects us daily.

There are loads of advantages of sticking at 2. I say that as a mum of 4

Cars, holidays, houses, days out, laundry quantity, meals out, asking people to babysit, bedrooms and finances are all far simpler with two.

I wasn't done after two, and I wasn't sure after three. I absolutely know I am done after 4! If you can reconcile sticking at two then do it, but if not, three or more is perfectly doable

Wow 4 kids, superwoman 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

yeah I know 2 makes sense but just sad a bit that this chapter of my life is over. Im sure once this one starts giving me back chat I will be happy to stick at 2 🤣🤣🤣

I was very broody after my second but I knew I really didn't want another. I was amazed how strong the feeling was though.

Stopped at 2. Thank god we did. Would not have it in me to parent more then 2 teens plus university costs 4 times over!!!! Ouch.

I completely agree with this, done after
number four, definitely wasn’t after number three, the broodiness was horrendous x

Thinking about how we could financially support more than two through university or similar was what quelled my longing for dc3. Tuition fees plus accommodation etc s minimum £60k per child and although student loans are available that number really sobered my thinking as I knew we couldn't support three. Also a good friends third baby was profoundly disabled and she is very loved but that was very difficult for them all including dc2 .