Were you anxious or excited to TTc your 2+ child?

[LadyDarkness]

After a year of my unbearable broodiness for the third , hubby decided to give it a go and try for 4 months before he gets a snip. He is open to the idea and even excited now, but is also ok with two. Since I got the green light, I cannot bring myself up to try and experience a sort of panic- I feel cold shivers at the thought of trying. We tried once and I was so scared I could sleep and took a MAP two days after- we used condoms all the other times since the n. Still waiting or the period but the tests are negative- I feel sad there might not be the third but the fear is something I didn’t expect tbh. I’m 40 and we have a 3.4 year old and a 20 month old so scared of making a massive mistake, whatever it might be.

has anyone felt the same? Did you override the feeling and give in to the longing or did you assume you didn’t want another child? I’m so confused!

Why the 4 month deadline? Is that part of your panic. Perhaps you’re panicking because your husband doesn’t seem 100% on board as he’s going to get the snip after only a few months of trying (statistically at 40 you may need more than 4 months, but at any age it’s normal to take longer than that to conceive).

fyi, I was excited and nervous (but mostly out of fear of secondary infertility), but definitely wouldn’t have taken the MAP or backed out of the decision and reverted to condoms, I was sure I wanted another and so was my DP. If he hadn’t been I would have felt different, which is what makes me think that might be a factor for you.

Thanks for your response, it really made me think. It might be because we always got pregnant rather soon after trying, even though we had MCs. Giving myself more time to try makes me feel calmer and upon reflection the fear intensified after my husband said he didn't want to try for too long. I guess he is convinced that it won't take that long, or perhaps its a compromise. This makes me wonder how much he really wants it. Interesting to read bout your experience -that's how I hoped to feel so this mix of panic and yearning completely threw me off.

I’m glad my response helped in some way. Hopefully you can talk to your husband about the deadline not feeling comfortable and whether he is really on board or not.