Shared bedrooms - who goes where

[Mama4996]

What are your thoughts??

Me and my partner are moving homes and merging our families together we both have 2 children each and both have a boy and a girl. Therefore 2 boys and 2 girls.

The home we are moving into has 3 bedrooms plus a loft space that can be used as a bedroom, not huge and can only stand up straight in the middle of the room where the apex is.

We are now at a cross roads on how to share the bedrooms.

My thoughts were for my eldest boy to have the loft space (13) his boy the have the smaller bedroom (11) and the two girls (12 and 6) to share one of the larger bedrooms with it sectioned off for privacy.

Now my partner does not agree and he thinks the 2 boys to share the loft space. And then the girls can have a room each to themselves.

My reasoning for my choices is that his 2 children at their mothers - the boy has to share a room with his younger twin brothers where are his daughter has her own room at her mams. Therefore at our house it is in reverse so that the boy has his own room at ours and the daughter can share at ours.

Also our two boys can bicker a lot as they are at that age that no matter what they do they are snapping and arguing with each so separate spaces works better.

My two children are with us full time and my partners children stay with us 3-4 days a week.

What are your thoughts? How would you share the bedrooms? Is there another way we haven’t considered?

I’d probably go with your suggestion if the boys bicker, but then I looked at the age gap between the girls. I think that actually them sharing will be trickier in the long run as the almost teen won’t want a much younger sibling in her room. So, I would give the loft too to SD, boys share the largest room on the main floor and DD gets the smaller room on the main floor.

My thoughts were for my eldest boy to have the loft space (13) his boy the have the smaller bedroom (11) and the two girls (12 and 6) to share one of the larger bedrooms with it sectioned off for privacy

You have three bedrooms. Where are you going to sleep?

Boys are closest in age, they share the biggest kids bedroom. Girls get the smallest rooms each.

That's how I'd do it.

I’d separate the girls tbh. It’s not fun sharing a room with a 6 year old when you’re 12

What do you mean by section off the girls room? The 12yo girl will need a quiet study space... as will the boys (not clear which girl will be their full time?). A wall is different to a curtain.

Pull out of this house purchase and find a house big enough to accommodate them properly?

I know that sounds flippant, but the whole blended family thing is going to be difficult enough without making two bickering boys share a room, or making a near-teenage girl share a room with a small child.