Large age gaps, middle child?

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So, I am pregnant with my third, unplanned, weighing up going through with it or not and another thread has been so useful.

Wondering however if anyone has had a Thurs with similar age gaps, one will be nearly 11 and the other 7 when baby is born. Pros and cons of these age ranges? Is the middle child thing an actual thing?

Thank you x

My third was planned, though I still panicked when I found out and wondered if we'd done the right thing. My older 2 were 11y and 7y and about to start y6 and y2.

Pregnancy was tough as I got covid and baby was born a month early (in NICU for 2 weeks) but luckily he is now a very happy and healthy baby. He's honestly absolutely wonderful and I'm so glad we have him. I know he's definitely our last so I'm enjoying the baby years for one last time. Yes sometimes I think how much more time I would have if I'd stuck with 2 but I know how fast it goes and know everything will be so much easier once he is 2/3. My older children love him loads and are helpful, play with him, watch him for a few mins etc.

Middle child thing is definitely not an issue here. Cons, lots more washing, can't get on with housework like I used to, primary and secondary school drop offs, breastfeeding again. Cooking tea can be tricky with a one year old to entertain. I'm back at work 2 days a week, so mornings can be hectic but I just try to get as organised as possible the night before. Its really not so bad. Good luck with your decision x

The middle child 'thing' can surely only be a thing when the kids are close in age. Your soon to be middle child was the youngest child for 7 years. I doubt they will suddenly become a different person.

I don't have three (if that's essential to you) but have a nearly 7 year gap between my two. I wouldn't change it, but it's not easy balancing their different needs (we don't have much help, so dh and I are both always flat out). It definitely makes life harder / more complicated. Ultimately worth it for us as so far they adore each other, and obviously without there'd be no siblings, but not sure I'd recommend it if I already had two.