Is a 4th child a bad idea?

[Thatsmoneyhoney]

Hi all!

We currently have 3 children. 3 boys. I'm in a same sex relationship. My wife carried our first. Baby 2 We adopted a family member that was taken into care and I carried our 3rd. Our boys are 4 2 and 5 months. I absolutely love being a mum and I really would love to experience pregnancy and birth again and I think to have a 4th child would just round us up nicely. However... I also think maybe this is ludicrous??
None of the boys are at school yet so I'm still very much in our own lovely family bubble. I may feel differently when the boys start school and have a bit more freedom? I don't know. I just love my children so much. I'm addicted! The thought of never experiencing pregnancy for a second time really gets me down. I know it's so short lived in the grand scheme of things.

Please tell me your experience with 4 children. Tell me your horror stories. Is 4 much harder than 3??
Also if anyone themselves has grown up with multiple siblings i would love to hear what things were like growing up.
I appreciate all my boys are still young so I've not yet had to deal with teenagers and the dramas that are attached.
Money isn't an issue. Neither is space.
Would love to know what you all say. 😊

Do what you feel is right and have no regrets. I have three girls, but honestly if I had been five years younger and met my partner sooner I would probably have had four .

The main obstacles to having a fourth child would be money and space.
If these aren't a problem for you and your wife is on the same page then why not?

I have three brothers and now have four kids (two of which are step kids) and I find four to be a nice amount.

Do it!!!

We have 4. It doesn't seem alot to us but when one of them isn't here it seems very quiet! I think you have to do what's right for you. I will say 3-4 was our easiest jump though! 1-2 was the hardest!

3 to 4 was easier than 2 to 3. No middle dc was a great bonus ime! Gaps of 2. 9 months between 1, 2 and 3. Then 14 months between 3 and 4
. No regrets.

I’ve found 3/4 the hardest but I’m a lone parent so that makes a huge difference

I have 5 children and there is an age gap between the oldest 2 and younger 3. Practically we couldn't all go out in one car until we got a 7 seater and then you had no boot room for bags or prams. As they get older it gets very expensive for days out and holidays but it's also great seeing them all getting along and for me as an only child I think how lucky they are to have their bond as they are so comfortable in each others company and are never lonely. At the end of the day there are pro's and cons and it's about what is important to you.