On my husband's side he has his Mum, Dad, 2 sisters. His sisters who are both early 30's live with his parents still and rely on the "bank of mummy and daddy" neither of them have partners or any intention of moving out so they still get treated like kids and you can tell they both love being waited on. All of them are so overbearing to my children that tbh seeing them just makes me cringe but I was still sorting it when we have free time.
When new year came round my new years resolution was to stop messaging first as for nearly 6 years it is ALWAYS me sorting out family trips and meals out or whatever. So I pop to see them this week and am pretty much bombarded with "well when are we seeing them then?" I said "whenever you want, just ask" i just got stared at. I said "it can be someone else that sorts it or asks to meet up, if you want to see them, ask" all i got was "ok" and still didnt actually ask. Then a couple of dates were thrown out by my husband and I but yet again, I sorthed the date and place. Im so fed up of being the family PA and sorting the date and diary for family gatherings but then as soon as I stop and wait for someone else to step up I get moaned about for not sorting out something. I am sick of it.