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To 3rd or not to 3rd?

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Fairylights87 · 26/01/2023 22:44

I know this is a topic discussed in a thousands of threads but please help me!

We have 2DCs (DC1 - 3 years old) & (DC2 - 1 years old). I found the age gap wonderful and although my first is a terrible sleeper, the second one is like a dream!

I am thinking of having a 3rd and as I like 2 year age gaps, it's about time to decide if it's right or not.

I know finances is a big issue and it's individual to everyone's circumstances, so you can't help much of that. I can understand that a 3rd bring challenges in logistics like car, space etc.

However, I want your experiences on how a 3rd affected relationships and time. I appreciate that the first couple of years will be a struggle like with every new baby but after this do things calm down? Does it worth it? I don't want to risk my relationship with DH and start arguing over nothing just because we are both utterly tired and can't handle the chaos.

My first made me a mummy and my second gave us a stronger sense that we are a family. What will the third do? Will it bring drama amongst us? Or will it bring joy and happiness?

DH is positive but has the same concerns as I do.

Any experience will be very welcome!

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 29/10/2023 11:57

Now I resent her and no longer want to be in the relationship, it has made me realise how selfish and self-serving she is. If we split which is likely it will have a lasting impact on all of the kids :(

Seeing a relationship full of resentment will have a lasting impact too. Yes, relationships ending is hard but so is staying in one that makes you unhappy.

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