My mum doesn't listen to me

[Izzyenergy]

I'm in a family of 6, at my mums, and I'm the eldest, my mum always asks if that alright with me, normally I say yes regardless. However today I asked if I could stay at my dad's today and go back to hers tomorrow (a bit if context my mum and dad have split custody of me, and I'm normally at hers, Sunday night, Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday morning, and my dads the rest of the week.) I wanted to be at my mum's the entirety of this week starting tomorrow until Christmas day, she kept saying "but that's not your normal routine" I'm off college this week and next so I wanted to spend the first half with her and the second with my dad.

Instead of just willingly going with her ideas to keep the peace I said "no because that seems to complicated" but she just wouldn't listen, is there any way to help??

Sorry if wrong topic I'm new to this app.

State it’s your preference unless she has a valid reason for not wanting it that way.

“That’s not your normal routine” can be replied to with “thing change” or “it’s not a normal week and this works better for me”.

Don’t back down, just push the “why?” back onto her until she can give you a reasonable explanation that makes sense. If she is autistic and doesn’t like routine change, then ask if it’s her autism kicking in…

She is not on the autism spectrum, and I really thank you for the advice however she's shouted at me and just said to do what I want and that I'm ignorant so :/ sadly not much I can do at this point now.

So are you going to stick with your plan of seeing your dad tonight because you'll be doing a week with each parent over the holidays so he won't see you till after Christmas?

It sounds such a sensible and thoughtful thing to do, rather than continue the 'usual routine' - can your mum not see that she'll get her 'quota' of time with you, just not on the usual days?

I don't know but this has been sorted now, I thank you for the advice