Hey mumsnet,
So I have a query to ask you guys.. I feel like I have been wronged and bullied into hosting a family gathering. A quick backstory, we was over at my cousins for her mums birthday two weekends ago. Towards the end of the party, my auntie and cousin suggested that my husband and I should host the following weekend and that they would come over to make some patties. The plans were postponed as not everyone were able to make it, so my husband and I decided to change it to this weekend. However, my auntie called me yesterday saying that her granddaughters have clubs on Saturday so by the time her daughter picks her up and brings her to mine it will be way too late to start making patties. Anyway she suggested or more so told me that I should just make a quick chicken stew for the family bare in mind my family is a group of 30. I told her that once I discuss with my husband I will let everyone know the plan.
my husband and I decided to cancel the family gathering since the patties were not being made anymore and we don’t feel comfortable cooking for a large amount of people. So I sent a message to my family group chat saying “ Good afternoon everyone, just to let you guys know that as we are not able to make the patties anymore we have decided to cancel on the weekend, sorry guys x”
my cousin then messaged saying “Lool, a bit mad but kl!
The polite way to say that would of been, I’m happy to host if everyone can bring a dish as me and John are not used to hosting large numbers.
I’m sure the family wouldn’t mind that. Np”
then my other cousins got involved and all agreed with her about how I was in the wrong, I even got called petty for saying I wasn’t going to apologise as I didn’t say anything rude. I got called childish by my older cousin too for not hosting anymore.
I am 27 years old and my other two cousins is 28 & 29
I felt attacked in the family group chat, everyone was having a go at me.
am I in the wrong in this situation.