Accidental pregnancy baby #4 what do I do?!?!

[louise891]

So short intro, I'm 33 mum to 3, 9yr ds, 7yr dd, and 3yr dd, my 3 year old starts preschool next month so I have just got a job working nights 5.30pm till 1.30am 3x a week to allow me to be home in the holidays etc, well..... I have just found out I'm pregnant! Not planned at all and we were done.. I'm in shock and hubby seems to be very negative about it and is worrying, I do still want to work and will continue to do so after baby, but we both said If this ever happened then we wouldn't keep :( my head tells me it's not sensible, we would need a new car, more money and I will be pushed for one on one time with my kids, and my heart is saying everything happens for a reason, and that I could never get a abortion 🥺 I guess I just need advise from people on both ends of a similar situation, thanks for reading, also just wanted to add that it took us 3 years to conceive our 1st and then went on to have 3 mcs between our 2 girls 💔

Thank you ladies, you have all said everything that was going through my mind, but now that I know we are going ahead, I will have to get more organised and have a plan in place, washing and cleaning etc. I already do it all everyday the same as homework and special reading time etc, I know we can do this, I have faith in us as a family, as money wise, we just got a 7 seater this weekend and now that I'm working and will be returning, we will be financially better off, hubby earns a good wage as he is a carpenter, that's how I have managed to be a sahm for 9 years, I'm only working now for me, he didn't want me to lol x

"Thank you so much, and your amazing! Can I ask did you find it hard going from 3 to 4? X"

I'm mum to 5. I honestly have felt that the biggest adjustment for us was when we hit 3. That was when our parenting had to change because DH and I could not have eyes on all the boys at the same time. going from 3 to 5 was hardly an adjustment. I wish you peace with your decision.

If your DH didn't want another child he should have had a vasectomy!

We had a surprise number 5. Best unexpected arrival ever..

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If your DH didn't want another child he should have had a vasectomy!

I agree 👍 little too late now though, its done, I'm hoping to get a elective section and gey a hysterectomy at the same time 🙏

So happy you made this choice OP. CONGRATULATIONS 👏👏👏 all the very best to you and your growing family xx

Hi just to give you my experience, I was in your situation 10 years ago and my older dc were similar ages. I was terrified and it was hard especially for the first year but I wouldn't change anything now. You sound like you're in a good place to manage, the car was the main problem for us as I was a SAHM and money was short and I had been hoping to go back to work when dc3 started school.

Now dd is 9 and I'm glad we had her. Having the older dc also helped as they can help out- not loads but if I need to go out there's generally someone about who can watch her. The rest are all teens/ young adults now and I finally went back to work when she went to school!

Congratulations, I have 3 and I feel like 3 kids is a lot but what’s one more
Wishing you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy