Planning number 6...any older mums of large families?

[CherylPorter350]

Hi all,

I have 3 children, DH has 2...we've been together 11 years, married 5. Dh had a vasectomy before we got together and we've just booked to have it reversed. We both want one together. I'm 41so time is ticking. I'm a bit wary of how others will react if we manage to add to the brood. Anyone faced negative comments for either being older or having a large family?

For context our kids are 21, 18, 16, 13 and 12. I'm assuming family will think I'm mad...but I just feel we're missing someone.

Guess I'm just looking for anyone with a similar experience.

We're financially sound, have a big enough house etc...

I so wish my husband and I had a baby together. We met when I was 44 and he was 40, I had 3 children and he had 1. We felt it would disrupt the children we already had. 11 years on and I regret we didn’t have our baby. The very best of luck to you xxx

It's no ones business. You do what you want to do . What others think is not your

I have 6 mine are 24,19,14, 11,6,5 to be honest after 5 the 6th does not make a massive difference

Hiya I have 5 children I am married two of my children are my husbands I would love another baby but I think 5 is enough it's not easy though both working full time

I'm 42. Husband is 44.

I have an adult dc 21, and we have 4 together 12, 10, 2 and 6m.

People have been surprised about 4&5 but we haven't had any negativity to our faces. We live in a rural area where 3+ is very common, also a number of similar ages friends had a large gap 3rd at the same time as I had my 4th, which has been nice.

@Ladyladylady

I so wish my husband and I had a baby together. We met when I was 44 and he was 40, I had 3 children and he had 1. We felt it would disrupt the children we already had. 11 years on and I regret we didn’t have our baby. The very best of luck to you xxx

That's sad, I'm sorry 😞 x

My youngest was 6 when I had a dc with (new) dh at 43...

Ignore what anyone has to say about it, if you want one together get a wriggle on and if it happens it happens. Good luck.

My mum kept saying I was old with our 6th (16, 11, 9, 6 twins & almost 5mth), I was 36 when we told them and 37 at birth. Dh is adamant he wants another too, I've always said I want to be done making babies by 40 so we may or may not. 6th's birth was a bit rough and I was told to wait 2 years if we do decide to have more.

I meet my husband and had my sterilisation reversed (privately) my family supported me but were never totally on board with it. I was early 30's. I did and can fall pregnant but unfortunately lost 12 babies and ended up having a ectopic pregnancy, that burst before I got surgery. This was when I stopped trying. I loved the idea of our families being blended but at what expense. Since then I've had 2 of my children diagnosed with autism and my life got hard. I'm now mid/late 40's, still would love a baby and we could of done ivf or even look into surrogacy but decided to be grateful for what we had. I hope you get your dream but just remember not to let it take over your life. I was told their was a 90% chance I would get my baby. All my miscarriages were at different stages and all heartbreaking. X