Pregnant with 4th and riddled with guilt

[DUWW2013]

I am in a similar situation of absolute agony of deciding what to do and what is best for our family. Most of the time, my head tells me the same, that we were meant to be a family of 5, and that adding 1 more will create immense stress on time and finances. I feel 70% certain that termination is the appropriate solution, but the other 30% of my heart crying out that changes can be made that might seem big now, won't matter as much in the long term. I'm going to see my GP today and then make an appointment with a counsellor for my partner and me and see what clarity, if any, it brings us.

@DUWW2013 hope you're ok. I don't have any experience of what you are going through but want to wish you well with whatever you decide to do.

Can you write down the advantages and disadvantages both for right now and in 5 years time? I know it’s a clinical way of looking at it but sometimes when the bare facts are in front of you it really helps to make emotional decisions.

We were in very much the same situation. We had three and didn't want more. We messed up and had to make the hard decision of what to do.

In the end I couldn't bring myself to terminate and DH agreed. It was tough but as ever you get through it.
Please make your own decision, but I can say that it's not the end of the world. I now have 4 adultish children who I love to bits.

Sorry, I meant to add a big hug to you. I know you must be all over the place at the moment.

Just a handhold. Nothing to add or say but I am sure you will come to a decision OK.