My children look totally different

[PrettyMaMa]

It's not a bad thing it's a shocking thing o know the power of genetics I've been told so many times
And yes my partner & I have made children who look completely different

Like to the point people are pointing it out & it's beginning to give me a complex

I love my girls dearly my first is a combination of my dads side & great grandmother blonde curls big hazel eyes olive skin

And my second is mainly taken her dads genes dark hair straight dark eyes light skin

I come from a family who all look different but a bit the same here and there

I just didn't expect it and I don't want people commenting to the point they will question their sisterhood in life

I don't recall anyone I know who looks totally different from their siblings doing so but it's become deep for me as I just want them to grow and enjoy each other I don't want them to face such rubbish in their future

Ladies give me some advice pls

Not one looks like me btw and that's cool .... cause maybe no 3 will

I think some families have a very inheritable face - I have friends who look identical to their parents, siblings and to their siblings' children. There is a strong look that seems to be passed down.

In my family - it's the opposite. My sister and I look nothing like each other or our parents. None of our kids look remotely like each other or like anyone else - it's as if each person comes out looking totally different.

@PrettyMaMa
We have 3 DC... One just like me, one like DH and the other is a tiny bit like me but mostly like DH's sister (who does not look like DH). (Fyi DH and I do not look alike - different hair and eye colours, I tan immediately and he burns etc). If my DC were in a room you wouldn't have picked them as siblings but if anyone teases one of them the other two are super loyal and nothing would stop them sticking up for their sibling . They also like to gang up on DH and I Their different looks have made no difference to them bonding and actually have made it a bit easier when they grew up in that what suits one clothes wise would not suit another (mainly due to colouring but also personal style a bit) so there is no swiping of clothes

[quote Sproglette]@PrettyMaMa
We have 3 DC... One just like me, one like DH and the other is a tiny bit like me but mostly like DH's sister (who does not look like DH). (Fyi DH and I do not look alike - different hair and eye colours, I tan immediately and he burns etc). If my DC were in a room you wouldn't have picked them as siblings but if anyone teases one of them the other two are super loyal and nothing would stop them sticking up for their sibling . They also like to gang up on DH and I Their different looks have made no difference to them bonding and actually have made it a bit easier when they grew up in that what suits one clothes wise would not suit another (mainly due to colouring but also personal style a bit) so there is no swiping of clothes[/quote]
Thanks so much for your comment

@garlictwist

I think some families have a very inheritable face - I have friends who look identical to their parents, siblings and to their siblings' children. There is a strong look that seems to be passed down.

In my family - it's the opposite. My sister and I look nothing like each other or our parents. None of our kids look remotely like each other or like anyone else - it's as if each person comes out looking totally different.

This is is to a T

Thanks ladies

I dunno it's something I never expected I just assumed like some most kids just kinda look the same .... but in reality our genetics have smashed it out the ball park

Let alone coping with 2 under 2 I dunno if that's making my anxiety worse

But yes, it's become quite hard for me to accept as I've been looking at one face for 24 months and now am looking at a complete new face ... it's jarring at times as I don't want to get into it with messed up people that say stupid things like 'oh sane dad ' oh they look nothing alike

Which is why I was worried about how they'd handle that in the future

I have 3 boys.

Two are clones of dh. Literally, it's frightening how similar they are. We all have dark straight hair but facially the two eldest are just dh but younger. Zero of me in them.

Ds3 comes along - white blond, curly hair and green eyes. He literally looks nothing like any of us or any of our families 😂

His hair stands out like a beacon in family photos, 4 dark heads and one white blond head of curls. And he's 4 now and still the same colouring so it's not just baby fuzz that will change.

3 is my limit but I would have been fascinated to have a fourth child and see if we reverted to producing dh clones or carried on with another blondie or something else altogether!

My two look nothing alike. One has straight, very dark hair, green eyes and very pale skin. The other has olive skin, brown eyes and blonde curly hair. DD1 looks like the twin of her third cousin on my father’s side. DD2 looks like my mother’s side of the family. Neither look like DH had anything to do with them!

Ex dp has 2 children, my ds and his older brother . 2 boys , 2 different mums but they look totally identical just 4 years apart. Genetics are funny .
My 2 nieces are full sisters and look totally different , in fact they look like different ethnicities .

I have a friend who is mixed race Latina and has a Caucasian partner. Their children look very different from each other,, some taking wholly after their dad, and some their mum. There isn't really a mix. They are a very close knit family, but are aware of the differences, and simply chat about it with the kids. They aren't bothered, it is what it is. Plenty of people think they are a blended family at first.

Me and my siblings look nothing alike, one brother is a red head, one is blond, one is jet black...im a mousy brown. All very different colouring skin tone wise and all very different builds...genetics are crazy

My younger sister and I look totally different. She's taller, has very fine features and beautiful big, shiny eyes that make her look like a bush baby. Pale skin and mousy hair. I am small, dark haired and dark eyed and round faced. There's no resemblance really. She looks like my paternal grandmother and I look like my maternal grandmother. I look nothing like my dad except for his teeth! We are the closest of friends and didn't mind at all when people remarked on how different we are.

My DS has my husband's fair colouring but everything else about him is the spitting image of me as a child, except he has exactly the same mouth as my sister and does the same facial expressions as my grandpa. It's really fascinating how genetics work!

@shreddednips thanks so much for your input

My first two look very different - one very white-skinned, light blue eyes, freckles, sort of light brown hair with a tinge of ginge. My second has tanned skin, brown hair, dark brown eyes. I live in SE Asia and lots of locals assume he is mixed white/Asian.

My third is closer in colouring to the first, but I think won't have quite such white skin.

Their father and I are both dark-haired, brown-eyed with fairly tanned skin... having 2 with such pale eyes has caused some comments, including people who outright refuse to believe two brown-eyed parents can produce a blue-eyed baby. Not sure what that was suggesting about me

I think it's amazing how some families look so similar and others so different. Genetics are fascinating!

My mum is very dark-skinned (for a white person) with dark hair and eyes, often mistaken for being from anywhere other than the UK. She had a green-eyed, red-head sister and a blue-eyed, blond brother. Amazing!

Faces I'm talking faces their faces are completely different - people comment all the time and because I'm getting used to it myself - it's like I'm offended

One takes from my side completely & one takes from my partners

Literally unless we're all together it makes sense ...... if we are with one alone it looks like we've stolen someone's child lol

My DGCs look nothing like each other, one’s like DS (dark eyes and hair, slim and tall) the other like my DDIL (dark blonde, blue eyes and small) . They couldn’t be more different 😊
My DCs are similar, dark hair and eyes yet younger DS is silver haired at 40, his older sister still dark haired.

I am typical English fair skin light brown eyes brown hair, my partner is slightly mixed Indian with dark hair, olive skin and hazel eyes.

With out three, I joke that my printer ran out of ink making them - oldest DD is olive skinned with dark eyes and dark hair, middle DS is light golden skin with deep golden blond hair and grey eyes, youngest DS is pale as me with greenish brown eyes and white blonde hair.

They all look really quite different but they definitely all have the same parents!

My brother and I look nothing alike, different colouring, build, faces everything. His son is a clone of him, his daughter looks like me. People regularly think either we are couple and the kids are ours, or my niece is actually my daughter.

My friend is one of 8. They all look the same, and now the older ones are having kids, they could be siblings. The genes are strong.

My DD (aged 2) is a donor egg baby, so genetically/biologically unrelated to me, but DH is her biological dad. When she was born, and for her first couple of years, she was a carbon copy of DH. In the last few months, people are expressing their surprise at how much more she looks like me now.

But . . . she can't

Don't stress about it! It doesn't matter!

Everyone used to assume I was a childminder mine look so different! Just don’t think me and dh mix, we seem to alternate clones but even the two that look like him have completely different colouring and features.

Well my four kids have 3 different dads, so only 2 are alike. The others are completely different. It doesn't matter to me.

Thanks you lot
Makes me feel much better
As much as I know it's out there and it's normal
It's thrown me for 6
And im still trying to get the hang of it

I just don't want my kids growing up with a complex

Amazing comments to all - few years have past and I’m slowly getting to grips with the difference in looks …. And now behaviour !!! Damn