It's never anything massive but it drives me absolutely potty. Every single thing I have learned the hard way about what works for my son is dismissed out of hand by wider family. Its nothing thats earth shattering but to me its just a sign of how little regard they have for me. My son has always found eating and drinking stressful- at first it was additional swallowing/choking difficulties which were physioligical but he has overcome. But he still won't drink water and he still finds eating difficult emotionally and one way I've found takes the stress out for him is to have postman pat on as he loves this and it distracts him from the task at hand so he can just eat without all the crying and distress. I also strip him off to eat as bibs do nothing and he had a tendency to two out of every three things he smooshes up and rubs all over himself and other things (also surround his high chair with foam play mats). But they dismiss both things out of hand and so eating is stressful again. Its not the end of the world its just the occasional meal he is not in his families care very often, but it just annoys the he'll out of me on principle that they seem to assume everything I say comes out of my arse.
I don't think I'm ever going to get any respect from my family, so avoiding that what can I do to stay sane? Be more assertive or just blank it out? Have a mantra to help me quickly ignore and move on from it? How do you be assertive when you've said something emphatically three times and everyone still ignores you?