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Secondary tokophobia due with third baby

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3rdtimeluckee · 26/10/2021 16:44

This is my third baby, I suffer from secondary tokophobia and it’s that bad I almost terminated the pregnancy. My midwife has been fabulous throughout as has my consultant. I’ve been offered induction and a C-section.

This has not stopped the nightmares, the intrusive thoughts and the absolute terror and worry.

I have never dreaded birth before, but this one is different.

Has anyone else suffered from secondary tokophobia and gone on to give birth?

I’m being offered an induction with waters breaking from the start with an epidural in the hopes I birth quick. I’m reluctant and still wondering about the csection I have booked in for 4 days after but reluctant due to the recovery and having two young children and a newborn care for (I will have my husband here for support for though).

I have tried CBT, hypnobirth, counselling. They refuse to do EMDR for me whilst I’m pregnant as it’s not ‘ethical to do with a pregnant woman’.

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newtolineofduty · 10/11/2021 20:51

Just bumping this for you OP. That's really interesting about EMDR. I've just asked my partner whose an EMDR practioner and he said that's true but he's not sure why! It sounds like you're being well supported and I really hope things improve for you x

ratussbaguss · 18/11/2021 22:06

Maybe talk to a few other emdr practitioners, it is not necessarily contraindicated

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