What did you find easier?

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Going from 0-1 children or 1-2 children?
In the fence about having a second child and my DS is just 4 I feel like I need to decide! 🤦🏻‍♀️

My daughter will be 4.4 years when her sibling arrives - we decided to try for second and know the first year or two will be hard but I think going from having 0-1 is much harder than 1-2 personally. I could be proven wrong though!

I found going from 1-2 so much easier than 0-1! 0-1 is a complete lifestyle change which nothing can quite prepare you for. With the second you know much more what to expect. Although still hard I found it less intense as had dc1 around too.

0-1. Easy peasy

1-2. Hell on earth

0-1 definitely harder. 1-2 is more work/more tiring but you have some confidence that you can keep a little person alive and happy so you're more relaxed about everything. 2-3 was hard though, when we were outnumbered! But 3-4 was fine, at that point is was just crowd control!

Definitely found 0-1 the hardest. And if your child is 4 then having a slightly older one when a new baby arrives also makes it easier than, say, a baby and a young toddler. We had a 4 and 6 year old when our third arrived and it was easier in some ways (not all!) than having a toddler and newborn when we went from 1-2.

0-1 fairly easy
1-2 really, really hard (first few weeks were fine)
2-3 easy peasy
Completely depends on your baby, toddler, how much sleep you get and your family dynamics.

0-1 hardest. All the rest ok.

Totally depends on various factors. The temperament of each child, and of the parents. For me 0-1 was incredibly hard, poor sleeper, needy child, and me who thought it would all be a bed of roses (not quite but I thought I knew then crashed down with a bang!). So 1-2 was waaaay easier. I think 1-2 for me was all about learning to be more organised, making the systems of the family work better. So challenging in a totally different way, as I was already sleep deprived and had many tricks developed up my sleeve for baby/toddler shenanigans so I felt more confident.

However other people I knew had an easy first, enjoyed mat leave etc, and 1-2 was much harder as they expected the same.

So what’s your kid like and what do you expect?!!

0-1 felt like the end of days, 1-2 was fine and I’ll let you know in September how 2-3 goes!

It really depends on the children though, my first was a Velcro baby and is still quite intense at 4 whereas my second has always been pretty chilled. My friend experienced it the other way round.