Miscarriages after having several babies?

[4Minions2CallMyOwn]

Hi. I’m 35 and have given birth to 6 babies over my lifetime. All were straightforward pregnancies and births. The last baby was born 19 months ago. Since having DD my husband and I have decided to have 1 more baby. However since then I’ve suffered 2 missed miscarriages.

After a lifetime of good fertility I’ll be honest in saying I really wasn’t prepared for this and have been struggling to cope mentally. Has anyone else been through this please? So several straightforward births and then miscarriages suddenly?

I’m 10 weeks pregnant now and so worried and stressed. It’s my last pregnancy but I’m not able to enjoy it at all and keep expecting the worst. It’s so difficult.

Any shared experiences or support would be very much appreciated

Hi, I had 2 babies, a miscarriage, 3rd baby, another miscarriage and now expecting baby 4 in 3rd trimester.
Like you I was really caught off guard by my losses. I had never expected them, I'd not considered it a possibility as I'd carried babies to term before. The first was mentally the hardest, I just couldn't understand what had happened and it took a while to get over. My pregnancy with baby 3 made me nervous as I was waiting for something else to go wrong. The second loss was a little later on in the pregnancy so it was physically harder. We made the decision to try again & if it resulted in another loss it wasn't meant to be for us. I'm 32weeks now, it's scary but scans have helped reassure me, of course I won't fully relax until he is here.
Have you had any scans yet?

I had 3 babies at 21, 29 and 30. Then very early miscarriages at 36 and 38 and DC4 took 19cycles to conceive. I had him at 40. Then pregnant again with a not very tried for baby at 41. This last one I had a huge bleed at 12wks at my scan, and was absolutely convinced that I had lost her, but I'm now 34wks. I didn't tell anyone aside from my husband until 24wks with this one.

Thank you both so much for your messages, I’m sorry you’ve been through this too...

@SpeakFriendAndEnter Yes I know what you mean, the first loss was definitely the hardest to cope with and so so unexpected. The second I expected for some reason- self preservation I guess. Even with this one I’m prepared for the worst now and completely feel how you described, just waiting for bad news. I have no excitement and am struggling to think a baby will actually be born

Yes I’ve had scans at 7, 8 and 10 weeks as I keep bleeding. They’ve confirmed a subchorionic hematoma which is where the bleeding is coming from. I didn’t bleed with any of the others though so it’s another worrying factor.

@BurningBenches Wow I that must have been so difficult 19 months conceiving your DC4. Especially after losing 2 babies. I’m really glad you’re now pregnant again so easily and it’s going well! Yes with my bleeding every time I’ve gone for a scan I’ve been convinced I’ve lost the baby. It’s so stressful and I’m just expecting bad news. We haven’t told anyone either as then I’ll just have to tell them if I miscarry which I really don’t want to do. The other miscarriages were at 6 and 8 weeks. This one is the furthest I’ve got so it’ll be harder to process if I lose it I think.

Thanks again ladies, it’s so helpful to know this can sometimes happen and still have a happy ending! Lots of luck with the rest of your pregnancies and births

@4Minions2CallMyOwn my bleed was also from 2 small subchrionic haematoma. They had thankfully gone by my 20wk scan but I had never had a bleed with a good outcome before so more anxious. I'm now 34wks and all seems ok x

That’s great to know that they resolved by themselves! @BurningBenches I think more bleeding will just make me so much more anxious also. It’s great you’re 34 weeks, so close to having a healthy baby! Do you still worry? Or did you get to a point where you have relaxed a little? I feel like I won’t relax until I have a healthy baby in my arms and will worry the whole pregnancy. I don’t know if that’s normal after losses

If anyone else is happy to share I’d really appreciate it

@4Minions2CallMyOwn I had two straightforward pregnancies aged 25 and 28. Literally no symptom apart from growing a bump and two sections. I conceived very easily first time once we decided to have a baby. Pregnancies were so easy even at 42 weeks I used to joke I'd like to be a surrogate as I enjoyed being pregnant.
We decided in 2020 to have another and I was so confident I had my months picked out. Got pregnant easily and the day after I brought out my mat clothes from storage I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks. Never had one before but I knew what it was. I was more shocked than upset tbh.
I had a period the following month and got pregnant the month after. But started bleeding from 5 weeks until 11 weeks due to a sub chorionic hematoma. Gone by 12 week scan and I'm currently 37 weeks pregnant. But this hasn't been as carefree as my first two maybe partly due to me being 34.
In a way I'm glad I had it as when I talk about it people tend to tell me their experiences. Prior to this I never heard anyone irl talk about miscarriages. Best of luck op.x