Age gap mum guilt

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I have 3 DC aged 8, 2 and almost 1. Me and DH have always wanted a family of 5 but there were some complications after DC1 and we weren't successful for years! The age gap really makes me sad! I'm worried my eldest will feel left out once lockdown is over and they're at different stages enjoying different things/days out. I don't want my eldest to feel left out if I was to have more DC. Me and DH are both from big families and really want that for our children.
Has anyone got a similar gap to mine? Pros cons? How do the older children cope? Am I over thinking this because I'm still upset it took 6 years for another DC?

My ds's have a 6 year gap. Very close!! Stop overethinking it and enjoy your dc!!

There's 13 years between my oldest and youngest (with another three spread in between) They are now adults, four of them are married and all of them are really close.

DS1 is 12 and the other two are 2 and not yet born :)

DS1 loves being the eldest and although I think it would have been brilliant for him to have a closer sibling he sort of feels like "one of the adults" a lot of the time and it's kind of a special status. I try to make time just for him without the little one as well whereas I'm sure the little ones will get lumped in together a lot.

Thankyou all for your replies, it's so easy to overthink this stuff as a mum!

As adults my dc with a 6 year gap are closer than the 2 that are under 3 years apart!!

That's so lovely to hear and really reassuring. My DC1 is so sweet and loves his siblings so much he's brilliant. I just want them all to be happy. You've really helped me, Thankyou

I've been feeling the same way. My girls are 8 and 2, so a 6 year gap. Whenever we go out, one of them ends up bored because the activity is suited to one but not the other.

Does anyone have any ideas on activities that suit both kids? How do you cope with keeping them both happy? !!

13 years between me and my big sister, just spent the day together with all of our kids on a big lovely woodland walk ❤️ we're all very close.

Also - 7 years between my stepson (who lives with us) and my daughter, they adore each other xx

@HollsLolls can't wait for soft play to open for this reason!! They're both happy there