Disconnected feeling

[Nuttytart534]

Did anyone else feel disconnected to the reality they are having another baby #4? I'm due in March but don't feel like it's happening or real. I know I'm pregnant - the shitty pregnancy makes sure of that but when I look at preparing for the baby it's almost like it's not happening... It's hard to explain how I feel...could it be that subconsciously I don't feel the need to panic or stress about what to get because I've been there before? (partners opinion) or am I just worrying myself for nothing? Argh!!!

I saw your post and wanted to say I had this with my 4th. The whole pregnancy felt unreal. In fact, I think in someways even the labour and newborn bit did. I was present in all the moments ie not detached exactly, but it felt strange and unreal- that’s the only way I know how to put it! He is 15 months now and I look back and think that it was a very odd pregnancy and first year. Not bad just different. Good luck with it. Hope the pregnancy is going Ok. It must be hard with all this lockdown stuff too.

I think it's probably because it doesn't feel new and you've been there done that, so just know how it goes. I felt like this with baby 4 and 5

I have felt this with number 3 who was born in September. I think it's a combination of being busy with the older kids, it not being a novel experience this time, plus I'm sure the pandemic doesn't help. I'm still surprised I have a baby now... Still doesn't feel real.

It's disconcerting, but seems to be a common experience.

I’m pregnant with number 4 only just found out abs I’m so nervous about coping with 4, then nervous I will jinx something. It was a total surprise