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Daisycat16 · 12/12/2020 22:50

I feel awful writing this when I know people that are struggling to have children and I’m talking about a third so please don’t judge me. I wanted a safe space to get things off my mind and hopefully have some reassurance. I’m 3/4 weeks pregnant so early days and it could be hormones playing a part as seem very tearful but I don’t feel the ‘excitement’ as I did with the previous pregnancies. My first, it was the first and the second I knew I wanted a sibling. It hasn’t helped that when we told family I can still see the look of shock etched on their face almost as if to say ‘what the hell were you thinking’. Also comments like ‘that’s going to be hard work!’. I never expected it to be a walk in the park but just plain congratulations would have been nice. Since then negative thoughts have just spiralled. I already have a 2 and a nearly 4 year old so I now keep thinking have a ruined what we have as a unit of 4? Will another alter dynamics in a bad way. I question whether I am mentally strong enough to cope as some days it’s hard enough with the two I have and recently it felt like things were getting a little easier. It all just feels a mess and instead of feeling positive about this in anyway right now I’m feeling pretty fed up and keep thinking that I should have been happy with what I’m already blessed with. Has anyone else had a bit of a wobble on transition from 2-3?

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BackforGood · 12/12/2020 23:26

I didn't have a wobble.
We wanted our third, and very much welcomed her into our family.
I wouldn't call 3 dc a 'large family' in any way.
Perfectly normal sized family.
3 is the best number of dc to have, IMO Smile

Worldwide2 · 19/12/2020 10:28

I have 2 and go back and forth about 3 almost every day which is so tiring mentally. I worry if I take the plunge il regret so watching this with interest.

DustyDoorframes · 19/12/2020 18:47

I had a total panic when I got pregnant with our (planned) third! I spent about a month feeling like a rabbit in the headlights, but it passed, and by the time she came along I was so happy and excited- and it's brilliant having her (she's 1).

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