Is having a second child really that different to having just one?

[Sunshinemum12]

Hi there,
I'm 36 and DH is 44. 11 months ago we had our DD. DH has a very demanding job with very long days and normally travels throughout the year so feel lucky that DH was home this year to help out. We have no extended family here. I feel like I need to give DD a sibling soon (due to our age) as I worry she will be lonely on her own(though not sure if this is a myth)??? But also worry that by doing so it may break me, cause lots more stress and damage my relationship with DH (he is not fussed either way about having another but 'feels old'). Also aware that if I have a second DH won't be home in the way he was this year so it will be a totally different experience. Just wondering if any other mums out there have raised 2 with a partner who works away a lot and no family nearby? Are the tough times worth it for giving your child a sibling or would you suggest I stick with one? Sorry for the super long message, any insights much appreciated:)

If you want to have another baby crack on I say but don't feel like you have to do it for your dd.
IMO two is not hard it's just about getting into your own routine. Having a new baby is always tricky as obviously you're learning your new normal and figuring out how to juggle things on very little sleep.
I can't identify (probably most on this board won't) with not having anytime to myself with two children as we have six.

Oh @PinkSpring that does sound exhausting, really hope things improve for you soon... By the sounds of things on this thread, the first years are the toughest so hopefully it will only get better for you from here on in. @Debradoyourecall thank you xx

Really thank you all, truly appreciate your insights! Going to wait another 6 months at least, chat to DH and take it from there! X

@Sunshinemum12 thanks.

I think this true what people say, it's the first couple of years that are difficult then (hopefully) it gets easier. When DS was first born, it was fine - as he has gotten older and more mobile, it's a lot harder!