Pregnant again! With a two year old and a 5 month old

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Totally freaking out here and need some advice!

Found out a few weeks ago that I’m pregnant again after only having my second child in April. I’ve also got a 2 year old running around causing havoc and tbh I’m terrified. We always said we wanted our children close together but we never expected this. To top things off we’re due to get married in July next year (fingers crossed with covid) and I’ll be due in may. I’m just sort of freaking out because I have no idea what to expect with having two babies just over a year apart. With my first pregnancy I suffered with extreme pnd and psychosis, luckily I have had a better experience with my second son but it’s always there on the back of my mind. I’m due to see the midwife next week so will be mentioning all this to her but I just wanted other mamas perspectives who have survived this.

Also what do people recommend for bigger cars and double buggies? We currently shave a focus which won’t fit 3 car seats and I’ve got a mamas and papas ocarro travel system but it was used from my eldest and isn’t in the best condition. I would like something I could use as a single for now and a double when the baby arrives xx

Thanks for any advice and listening to my rant!
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First, congratulations!
If you did want to have a larger family at some point, this might be the best time for it. Covid has slowed things so much and a lot of my friends are actually considering having their family completed now.
Your children will be close in age, will play together and will grow around each other, at the same time. Yes, it will be a mad house for a while but it will be great in the long run so I think you are worrying for not much. If there are any health issues, best to tackle them ASAP and focus on each day as it comes. You can may be buy a second freezer and cook in large batches and keep a diary of them. It will save you from so much daily hassle and planning, not to mention cooking. Get a dish washer, two if possible and have space. That way, kitchen will stay tidy and clean most of the time. I guess you will also be able to use a lot of your second baby’s clothes so that saves shopping trips too.
Good luck! You will be just fine!

For bigger car, I am not sure really. Someone will be song to explain that better. But many double buggies are just fine and I am sure your eldest will be able to stand on a buggy stand. I don’t recommend it though as it’s a lot of weight to push around.

but we never expected this

Weirdly this happens all the time on MN.

"Had sex but had no idea I could get pregnant"

Thankyou for your reply xx

Yes we will be able to use a lot of the clothes we have now luckily! (Hopefully another boy but secretly wishing for a girl 🤞🏻) my eldest is really good and walks everywhere now anyway hence why we didn’t get a double buggy now. Covid has definitely done some good for us as we were able to move into our forever home in April (2 weeks before I was due 😬) and now our surprise baby too.

I think it’s just the shock more than anything as were both young parents (I’m 20 and my partner 23) but I’m so grateful for everything we’ve been able to do and provide for our children.

Pregnancy takes its toll on my body and makes me really really weak and I just hope I’ll be able to cope with 2 kiddos and another pregnancy. It’s just terrifying.

We’re lucky that we’re in a stable financial position or I don’t know what we would do

I had three but spaced two years apart plus I was only 22 with my first , just married and only a newly qualified as a staff nurse. The house was a building site and my husband was on an oil field in the Gulf for 6 months. It was chaotic at first but I was young and I never suffered PND or anything worse than a sore fanny. But three small children is a challenge. My father gave me his Land Rover ( seats 12 ) and I bought everything else second hand.

@ScarMatty thanks for your helpful comment. We were using contraception but it clearly failed. I didn’t come on here to have comments like that thanks 👍🏻

Being young is even better, you’ve got more energy and you’ll still be young when your kids are grown and independent. It’ll be mad for a few years but you’ll be fine my bf has 4 with a range of age differences and says her two that are 11 months apart are the best because they’re the same stage of life and want to do the same things

On cars, have a look at Ford S-Max’s. Lovely and big 7 seaters without being TOO big, you can fit 3 car seats across the middle and they all have isofix, and there’s a good size boot even with the 2 very back seats up.

@BuffaloCauliflower Thankyou for your reply!

Thanks for the suggestions for the car, I’ll look into it Thankyou!

It bears reminding that you have options. If you don't want another child right now, you do have the choice to terminate. It may not be a choice you take, but it is open to you. Im sure it's not a popular suggestion on here but someone should make it.